am i crazy or???

Mind you, 41 days Postpartum.
My birthday is end of july. My husband wants to take me out for an overnight at a casino 30 minutes from home.
that’s not my issue.
my issue is that he asked his mom to watch our baby while we go and this was the 1st i heard of even a bday trip AND her potentially baby sitting.
(setting the scene)
1. we live with my mom and her husband.
2. i’ve only met his mom 4 times.
3. we never talked about who will watch her.
he thinks i’m upset because he asked his mom.
his mom is the 2nd issue, my 1st issue is that we didn’t talk about where MY baby will go during this overnight….
like am i crazyyyyy or ???

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Hell no. 🚩🚩🚩

First red flag is wanting to leave the baby "as a surprise" at a month old....baby is way to small to stay with anyone imo. Second red flag is not asking the grandma yall live in who already helps with the baby. Wtf.

Not crazy at all!!! I would say no, for sure!

Is his mom a danger in any way? Start drama in any way? Is she irresponsible? If not, then if I were you I’d appreciate the very kind thought he put into this. Cause most husbands wouldn’t. Including mine. So girl if there’s not a VALID reason… let your man surprise you and give you a great birthday. Cause if you have an unnecessary reaction.. then he may not be so willing to give you a great birthday next year. Lots of woman make this mistake. I’m just throwing that out there.

But if the mother is irresponsible or gives you guys trauma or gives you an actual reason that your son won’t be safe with her, then maybe talk to your husband about having someone else watch him. Otherwise just appreciate it girl.

absolutely not. how long have you been with your partner? and you’ve only seen his mother 4 times? and he wants to leave the baby with her overnight instead of your mom???

all he had to was ask you who you’d feel comfortable with caring for the baby…

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