Leaving baby to cry

My baby is nearly 3 months old and my partner is having a go at me because I always comfort my baby when he is crying and dont like to leave him to cry it out at this young age? Am I wrong for this or right?

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He's 100000% wrong and you are right. Ignore him

You are doing nothing wrong baby’s need there parents and when baby’s cry 9 times out of ten it’s either a diper change to eat or something the need to have touch so that they can feel safe

Its not possible to ruin a baby by soothing them and this has been proven over and over again

Its completely safe if all babys needs are met and they are crying to set them down somewhere safe for a few minutes while you have a breather as a fustraighted mother is never good but if youre perfectly happy to sooth your baby then go ahead and do it screw what anyone else says xx

Look into the Ferber Method, it’s supposed to start at 4-6mo and not any sooner. Obviously it’s up to the parents decision if they use this method. My baby is almost 6mo and we still co sleep. The only time my baby sleeps alone is during naps and she may cry but she usually gets herself back to sleep in less than 2 mins. If she goes longer then I’ll intervene. It’s all on your choice.

Check out attachments theory, absolutely not. Leaving babies causes insecure attachment which is more damaging! You're their bridge to the world and their only safety.

He needs to educate himself and actually be a parent!

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What one thing you hate to admit you would judge someone for ( by looking at them )

Comment others , just curious no hate , most of us judge without even thinking about it I think it’s just human nature as long as you take the time to give eveyone a fair chance I think it’s all okay
Mine is probably teeth & smell
I hate to admit teeth too as I know a lot of people have dental issues but my initial reaction is it judge although I’m trying to stop that reaction

Is it normal for my husband to text his gaming team all day?

My husband plays games at night after the baby goes to bed. I don’t really have a problem with that. Sometimes I get annoyed because he doesn’t always clean the kitchen, so the next day it becomes my job. I talked to him about it, and to be fair, he’s been doing his best to improve.

The most annoying thing is that he has a gaming team, and he’s texting them on Discord all day long. It’s so annoying that I’ve told him a few times it feels like I’m living with a teenager because he’s always on his phone texting.

I know he’s not cheating or talking to other women. I trust him, and he’s very open with his messages and everything. It’s just weird to me that he’s constantly texting, even when we’re together spending time as a family. We don’t get to go out together with the baby very often, so it’s frustrating to see him on his phone instead of being present.

Am I overreacting? Is this normal?

Daycare

My baby started daycare today. It was really hard for me I feel terrible, it went well but she was crying when we picked her up and she looked so sad and lost. She only went 3hours I start working full time on Wednesday ans she will have to go all day I feel like the worst mom. I stayed 9 months with her and we don’t have any family around so it’s hard

Dilemma

My partner is done with me. Made it clear he no longer likes or loves me. He drinks a lot and smokes weed daily and definitely has some mental issues that I’ve tried getting him to address over and over but I’m afraid he just won’t get himself any help. I suffered from bad postpartum depression and anxiety that’s left me pretty rattled after an already traumatic pregnancy and birth so it’s been a lot for him to deal with as well but instead of trying to connect with me, he watches porn and girls on instagram. I’ve exhausted every option I could think of but now it’s more-so me just trying to create a peaceful and safe environment for me and my baby girl. With no family for support and friends ghosting after having my baby, I’m thinking it’s best just to move home to the UK with my daughter and try to get him to realize the life he’s breaking apart. Because I’m not working, he assumed the role of primary financial provider and holds it over me heavily. I don’t see myself as a victim and am not looking to paint myself that way either, I just can’t wrap my head around how I’m going to take the next step you know? I finally confided in a friend today about everything to do with the situation (a lot more than what I’m putting on here) and it made everything seem much more real, and terrifying. Any advice would really truly help. I now fully understand the strength mothers have when placed into this situation and can’t believe so many have to go through it in this day and age.

AITW: Husbands Lost his Mind 😱

I’m honestly in shock with how today has ended. It was dinner time, very casual (we ate in the living room. My husband was cleaning up a small bit of rice that my toddler (2yo) spilled on the floor. The first time he cleaned it up w/ our toddler help. My husband put it all back in the bowl and was getting ready to take it to the kitchen, when my toddler went and spilled it again.
Now I could already see his dad was getting frustrated because his tone was definitely more agitated but I chose not to step in, he a grown man and should be able to handle it. So I let him figure it out and again get the mess all cleaned up. We had the tv on and my husband got distracted again after cleaning up the mess and yet again my toddler spilled the rice again before he could take it to the trash in kitchen.

This timey husband got so upset he grabbed out toddler so aggressively, lost his grip and almost dropped him ON HIS HEAD, yelling in his ear “no we’re done, we don’t do that”etc.
my heart literally dropped, I was so pissed I just started yelling at him. I could not believe he responded that way to a little ruby of rice on the floor. I can’t even stand to be around him. I’m so made that he allowed himself to get so angry towards our child especially when he hasn’t even spent a whole day caring for him.(not that it would excuse his actions). Honestly just disgusted with his behavior and it absolutely triggered me. I didn’t know he had that in him!!

Solid at 4 months

Has any mom tried introducing solids a 4 months if so what was your journey like