AITW: Husbands Lost his Mind 😱

I’m honestly in shock with how today has ended. It was dinner time, very casual (we ate in the living room. My husband was cleaning up a small bit of rice that my toddler (2yo) spilled on the floor. The first time he cleaned it up w/ our toddler help. My husband put it all back in the bowl and was getting ready to take it to the kitchen, when my toddler went and spilled it again.
Now I could already see his dad was getting frustrated because his tone was definitely more agitated but I chose not to step in, he a grown man and should be able to handle it. So I let him figure it out and again get the mess all cleaned up. We had the tv on and my husband got distracted again after cleaning up the mess and yet again my toddler spilled the rice again before he could take it to the trash in kitchen.

This timey husband got so upset he grabbed out toddler so aggressively, lost his grip and almost dropped him ON HIS HEAD, yelling in his ear “no we’re done, we don’t do that”etc.
my heart literally dropped, I was so pissed I just started yelling at him. I could not believe he responded that way to a little ruby of rice on the floor. I can’t even stand to be around him. I’m so made that he allowed himself to get so angry towards our child especially when he hasn’t even spent a whole day caring for him.(not that it would excuse his actions). Honestly just disgusted with his behavior and it absolutely triggered me. I didn’t know he had that in him!!

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Disney films

Okay so I suddenly feel like a bad mum. I know I’m not.. but in this aspect.

So I’ve a 2.5 year old who has the TV on 24/7 - not literally, we go out daily and she also goes to nursery x4 a week but when home, it’s on.

It used to be a range of programs she’d watch, ms Rachel, tractor ted, waffle dog etc but recently peppa has been her comfort and her go to so she watches.

The ONLY Disney princess film she’s watched and likes is Moana. She’s watched a bit of Cinderella and to be honest think that’s it. No frozen, no mermaid etc.

Then I see all these videos online of their kids constantly wearing Disney princess dresses, how they’ll be sad when it stops etc etc. my daughter doesn’t even have any as she never watches 😭😭😭

Am I being a bad mum by not putting them on for her more??? Instead of peppa I might subscribe to Disney+ so I can chuck that on for her instead?

Thoughts please. What age did your daughter get into all the princesses? I feel this is maybe prime time??

Mortgage split

If you have a mortgage/own a property with your partner, how did you split the percentage of how much you each own?

Me and my partner are buying our first home together. His income is roughly 50k and mine 36k. The deposit will be paid completely from my partners savings. I can tell he feels sketchy and is refusing to legally note is as 50/50 share between us. He wants me to have 30% and he owns 70%. His reasons are that he’s putting down the entire deposit and has the higher income, and keeps saying ‘if anything happens between us’ but won’t specify more.

I have told him I want 50/50 but he doesn’t agree (even though he said if he was advising his children in this situation he would tell them to do 50/50).

The part reason I want 50/50 is that I think it’s fair and it’s a joint home both mine and his. Yes he earns more, but that’s because I’ve been the full time parent and can’t work the hours he does. Yes he is contributing the entire deposit which is a lot, but he also only has this much savings because I didn’t work for a few years after having our kids so I took full time care of our kids and was like his free childcare.

Also, for the last few years I have paid all of our rent with my own wages from work, which has allowed him to save as much as possible for ‘our future’ and this house.

BUT, he has said he would most likely pay all our monthly mortgage payment completely himself. So generally, he will be most likely paying a lot more than me in our new house so part of me has taken that into consideration and decided I would accept a 40% share and him 60%. He is still adamant to have a 70/30 split.

What one thing you hate to admit you would judge someone for ( by looking at them )

Comment others , just curious no hate , most of us judge without even thinking about it I think it’s just human nature as long as you take the time to give eveyone a fair chance I think it’s all okay
Mine is probably teeth & smell
I hate to admit teeth too as I know a lot of people have dental issues but my initial reaction is it judge although I’m trying to stop that reaction

Daycare

My baby started daycare today. It was really hard for me I feel terrible, it went well but she was crying when we picked her up and she looked so sad and lost. She only went 3hours I start working full time on Wednesday ans she will have to go all day I feel like the worst mom. I stayed 9 months with her and we don’t have any family around so it’s hard

Major toileting regression!! Please help 😭

My 4.5yr old boy is going to school this time and we mastered toilet training ages ago. Was dry during the day and night. We even ditched the pull ups all together. He was completely independent, even wiping his own bum.

Now he's just weeing and pooing as he pleases. I don't know what's changed. He's coming home with bags full of wet clothes. He won't tell me whats changed. He won't say anything about it. He won't even ask for the toilet. Just doing it in his pants. All the time.

It's breaking my heart every time he does it and not to mention it's highly embarrasing for us all, whenever we go anywhere he will wee or poo in his pants. Play centres, restaurants. You name it. Even school are getting fed up.

Has anyone experienced this and can they advise how to get back out of it?

Is it normal for my husband to text his gaming team all day?

My husband plays games at night after the baby goes to bed. I don’t really have a problem with that. Sometimes I get annoyed because he doesn’t always clean the kitchen, so the next day it becomes my job. I talked to him about it, and to be fair, he’s been doing his best to improve.

The most annoying thing is that he has a gaming team, and he’s texting them on Discord all day long. It’s so annoying that I’ve told him a few times it feels like I’m living with a teenager because he’s always on his phone texting.

I know he’s not cheating or talking to other women. I trust him, and he’s very open with his messages and everything. It’s just weird to me that he’s constantly texting, even when we’re together spending time as a family. We don’t get to go out together with the baby very often, so it’s frustrating to see him on his phone instead of being present.

Am I overreacting? Is this normal?