Am I in the wrong?

We only let my parents watch our 1 year old. Today, while my husband was at work, I went to my mom's house and took a shower while my parents took my baby to the grocery shop. For the last few weeks, I've been struggling with my mental health, and my hygiene hasn't been great because of that. My husband kicked off and said that I'm disrespecting our relationship and boundaries and that he'll be staying in a hotel until I leave the apartment.

We've had issues like this before, but im tired of him not understanding that I just need a minute sometimes

Am I being inconsiderate?

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U defo are not you need to take care of yourself too get rid of him to me it seems like he's seeing someone else tell him to watch the little one and stop moanin the vile human being ur worth more x

I don't even know how to reply to this. In what world would it be inconsiderate to take baby to see its grandparents and allow them to take baby for a little outing unless there is something wrong with the grandparents that they shouldn't be trusted. They say it takes a village for a reason. Many don't have one, if you do and they are happy to help then take the help if you need it and do not feel any type of way about it

What exactly are you disrespecting in the relationship? I’m confused. The fact that you let your parents take them to the store?

Lmfao what? Literally what does it have to do with him that you go get a shower while someone watches the baby? He should be ashamed of himself that he can’t watch his own child long enough for you to get a shower when he’s home 😂😂

Extreme for him to do that

I don’t understand, what boundaries are you disrespecting and how are you disrespecting the relationship?

Does he have a problem with your parents watching your guys’ child?

What boundaries have you exactly disrespected??

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Can we just "make time"?

Here's our situation. I'm on maternity leave, with a baby, and a toddler (who goes to nursery part time). I'm managing to work out 4-5 times a week, from 6 to 7am (often baby wakes up sometime in that window so I'll put him down with some toys for a little while).
My partner works lots of weekends in preparation for a month-long trip he'll do by himself. In addition to this, sometimes he comes home late in the evening because he's also doing an online training course which he does at his office after work.
This morning he told me that I should do a training course too. I said "When?!".
And he said that "It's all about willpower" and "It's just like my workout, I didn't have the time so I made up that time". Which I find irritating...but does he have a point?
Has anyone been able to finish online training while on mat leave?
Or is that ridiculous because he's literally away all the time?!
(I'm not looking for validation by the way, it struck me as ridiculous but happy to be proven wrong!)

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am i crazy or???

Mind you, 41 days Postpartum.
My birthday is end of july. My husband wants to take me out for an overnight at a casino 30 minutes from home.
that’s not my issue.
my issue is that he asked his mom to watch our baby while we go and this was the 1st i heard of even a bday trip AND her potentially baby sitting.
(setting the scene)
1. we live with my mom and her husband.
2. i’ve only met his mom 4 times.
3. we never talked about who will watch her.
he thinks i’m upset because he asked his mom.
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