Going out with newborn

It’s not easy for everyone but me and my husband made a habit on going out together quite soon and early after she was born just get used to it, by the time he went back to work. It was a lot less stressful! Depending on what sort of baby you have, if you can pop them down for a hot minute while you prep everything for her bag. Food/clothes/nappies ect then it’s worth doing that a fair bit of time in advance so as soon as baby is awake you can make your move. Does baby sleep in the car? It will get easier to time naps around being in the car also!

You have no reason to feel embarrassed. The average and considerate person knows that a mum with a new baby is going through it and will not care if they are crying, or fussing or you have a poo explosion. That is what babies do.
You will find that people are always excited to see a baby and often ask you questions, in the supermarket or the coffee shop and it is really nice to talk to another adult for a few seconds.
You have got this, take it slow, like a walk to the shop and build up your confidence.

my first was exactly the same, and as unhelpful as it is in the moment, try pack as much as possible the night before or have backups constantly in your car. It eases the pressure to pack everything as you’re trying to get out of the door. In terms of spit up, keep muslins or bibs handy at all times (they became an accessory of mine for those first 6 months) and a spare outfit in case of a poo explosion. It can feel scary and overhwhelming and flustering but people are much more understanding than you’d expect ❤️