Inconsolable crying

All babies cry but does their crying get more consolable as they get older? My baby is 6 weeks and his crying is pretty inconsolable at the moment. They say the peak is 6-8 weeks. Have you noticed that your baby is easier to console after that? I’m scared to go out in public tbh bc sometimes there’s nothing I can do to calm him down and people stare.

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Mine got easier after about 5 months.

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I think it depends…
Why is baby crying? You can try to catch it earlier… there are even ai apps to detect what crying it is

https://youtube.com/shorts/JOJAT5xCprA?is=FjiNruMyq9CYrPUm

Many things YOU learn to see before it happens :)

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If they don’t calm down when you pick them up and it’s still going on I’d be looking into whether there is the potential of reflux or an allergy maybe?

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My baby was completely inconsolable at times, especially around the 6-8 week mark.
It's possible he could have had some allergy issues going on. I cut dairy out of my diet at around 12 weeks and that seemed to improve things a bit, but could've also just been coincidence. When we started weaning at 6 months he struggled a bit with egg too and I wonder if I'd cut that out too if it would've helped. But by that time we were thankfully past the inconsolable crying stage. It does end, I promise!
Please don't let it stop you going out though. If anyone stares just ignore them! They've either never had babies themselves, in which case you're doing them a favour by giving them a taster of what it can be like. Or they were fortunate enough to have very settled babies, in which case good for them!

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My first had a dairy and soy intolerance, a few weeks after fixing my diet and adjusting to a hypoallergenic formula (we were supplementing) he started to get better.

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Partner getting angry over baby not settling

My baby is 12 weeks old and has always been a good sleeper, we’ve never really had many issues with her sleep. But this morning she has been so fussy and crying all morning from 3am till now (7am) but she’s finally settled. I’m 99% sure she has trapped wind or just has a sore tummy from not pooping for about 24hrs now. ANYWAYS. At about 4:30am my partner woke up and tried to settle her, obviously it didn’t work, he then had the nerve to shout at the baby telling her to “sort herself out”. I had to try my hardest not to snap but I told him to not dare talk to her like that as it’s not her fault she’s upset, my girl loves her sleep and I know that’s what she’d rather be doing than screaming her head off. The extra annoying part is I have never woken him up for help through the night when she’s fussy, I’m always in another room with her until I know she’s definitely settled, he always tells me before he goes to bed “wake me up if you need me” but I never do, and now I guess I know why.

It’s just annoyed me how I deal with her whenever she’s upset 24/7, he’s at work 6am-4/5pm all week and even weekends some days, not to mention the sports he does 3 days a week and the times his friends ask him to go out. The times he does see her she’s happy. He hasn’t had her 1:1 since she was about 6 weeks old if not earlier than that. Everytime I offer him to feed her a bottle of expressed milk he has an excuse, whenever I try to get him to even just spend time with her he has an excuse. But because he doesn’t spend enough time with her he doesn’t recognise her different cues for what she needs and then he gets frustrated when he can’t settle her. It’s a vicious cycle.

But the short of the rant is, I’m so angry that he had the nerve to shout at the baby for crying when he’d only been awake 30 minutes and she was clearly in some kind of pain. Instead of trying to be her comfort person and her safe space he decided no, I’ll shout at her, which in turn scared her and upset her more.

I’ve never been so angry. How would anyone else approach this situation?

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17 months is HARD

can someone please tell I’m not alone in feeling like the 17 month old mark is so hard or am I just going crazy.
On lack of sleep still aswell as he isn’t sleeping through, everyday is a challenge and sometimes I find myself losing my patience by early evening because the constant tantrums, nothings ever right, one second somethings fun the literal next second it’s the worst idea ever and he screams over nothing.
He can’t tell me with words what it is he wants so this makes him frustrated and rightly so. But I’m just finding this whole age range so so difficult and challenging

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Anyone else feel the same?

My baby is 3 weeks old today and the love I have for her is crazy but my goodness this is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Does anyone else’s baby constantly wriggle and squirm, cry for no reason but then have days where they barely cry at all so you find yourself thinking is it reflux, is it this is it that!? But if it was, she’d be like it all the time! Constantly thinking well something must be wrong because most babies ‘have something’. Wondering if their formula is right for them even though there’s no reason to suggest it isn’t. I feel like the Internet is bombarding me with things at the minute around ‘does your baby do this’ then buy this!! But like, isn’t she just being a newborn!?

What I’m trying to say is does anyone else just feel this immense pressure and constant anxiety of ‘are they okay’!! I can never seem to relax

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Attaching to boob

Hi mamas,

My son was born 12 days ago, and we’ve been having trouble with breastfeeding from the start because he hasn’t been able to latch properly.

Two days ago, we had his tongue tie snipped, hoping that would solve the problem. Straight afterwards, he latched really well and fed for about 30 minutes, which gave me so much hope. But since we’ve been home, he hasn’t latched once.

I know he can do it now, but whenever I try to breastfeed, he cries, arches his back, or pushes his head away. It’s becoming really upsetting, and I just want to be able to feed my baby without relying on a bottle.

I will be going to breastfeeding support groups and I also have a few names for some specialists so I will have to get some professional help involved.

Has anyone else experienced this after a tongue tie release? If so, did anything help? I’d really appreciate any advice or reassurance. ❤️

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Tummy problems and straining

I have a six week old baby and am a first time mum who is formula feeding. He has always struggled a little with straining when pushing but lately this has intensified and we have just had a window of around 44 hours where he didn't go for a poo and was visibly struggling when trying to push. I am following guidance and doing bicycle legs and tummy rubs, we have also had two sessions of craniosacrial therapy. He sent dehydrated and still taking feeds. I have spoken to doctors and healthcare visitors but feel a little dismissed and am continuously told its just normal. I suppose I am looking for some reassurance that 1) it is normal and 2) even if it is, it's okay to be worried and see if anyone has any other advice.

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