Is there any problems with my child not socialising?

I don’t think you’re the world’s worst parent as you obviously care.

I think socialising would be good for both of you though, not just your little one.

Can you not go to places with other people, like your mum or the dad, so they get to go out? Could you make use of some funded hours to get them in nursery a day or two a week? Or just the park a couple of times a week where there will be other kids? Libraries often do free drop in sessions too so even if you couldn’t make it last min you’ve not financially lost out.

you don't say how old she is but have you seen the research that suggests kids only need their primary caregiver from 0-3yrs? some specialists argue kids shouldn't even go to daycare before 3yrs old. So, if that research is correct, then as long as you are interacting and playing with her and she's not just on her own watching TV then it sounds like there's nothing to worry about.

I used to go to baby and toddler groups and can tell you the kids don't really interact anyway. It's more for the mums to chat.

My boy goes to nursery and ignores all his classmates 😂 Before 3yrs, kids don't really play with each other, they play alongside each other.

Have you thought about sending her to nursery so she can get some socialising done if you’re worried about it x

Gurll!! The fact that you are doing the best you can and literally doing stuff with your kid, is what the best parent can do. And she is pretty young, do not rush into the talk of others about socializing. You will get to know your child best you are doing the bare minimum already! You got this! And also work on you take your time if you are not feeling well your child will feel it.

You aren't the worst parent, but I do think you need to seek professional help. Your MH and any other health related struggles aren't likely to magically disappear when she starts school and how are you going to navigate that, how will she get to school? Are you able to walk to anywhere a park or nearby group, consider it practice, you don't have to go in yet just go a little nearer each time.

I don't bother with baby groups. I've got anxiety myself, not like yours, but it's quite bad, and I just feel like the mums are all quite judgy to new and young mums, so I really struggle to go. And it's just stressful as my son is just a toddler and is chaotic and everyone stares. I don't think going made any sort of impact on him. We go to a forest school, but that's much easier to be more independent there, so I don't mind that. Like someone else said, under 3, it doesn't matter, really. But I would suggest just trying to go outside more as fresh air really helps. And to get little one signed up for preschool when they turn 3 when they get the funded hours, or I believe there are some that are completely free

You're not a bad parent at all as long as she is loved. I think socialising slowly is a good idea as she can gradually get used to the world around her and not be scared of it. If you are in UK I think she should qualify for at least 9 hours a week nursery. Maybe look into it and look into accessibility for you to get her there

What are your plans for when your child starts school? I'm just asking because maybe getting used to nursery drop offs or a class once a week for both of you will make that transition easier.

Youre sort of in this middle spot, where you have taken the feedback from your mum, decided its important, are berating yourself about it, but you feel you can't do anything about it. It is a rock and a hard place. Get out of it and either decide she is getting enough and ignore your mum, or figure out something that you can do and work backwards from there.

If you cant ignore you can always try redirecting or stone walling. 'I've heard your opinion on this - change subject'. 'I dont want to talk about this anymore' etc. things like that.

Yeah maybe this one hit a nerve but it does sound exhausting.

Its so hard that you live with her! It does make it so much harder to enforce any boundaries like that. Wish you could put her on the naughty step, something about our parents generation - they are worse than toddlers sometimes!