could you be friends with someone with very different opinions to you?

i think we’ve lost the ability to do this as a society. don’t get me wrong, i couldn’t be friends with someone racist or homophobic, but if one of my friends had a different “big opinion” (anti-vax or anti-abortion or voted reform) or whatever i can’t imagine dumping them

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Opinions are fine. I’d care about racism and homophobia. Idk if I’d immediately dump a homophobe as a friend vs try to see the root of their issue with them. Anyone that knows me knows I’m not like that so I’m not worried about ‘birds of a feather’. Racist immediately no as I’m a poc myself but sometimes you dk at first. The examples you listed idc if they’re not forcing em on ppl or recklessly putting my kids at risk. But you also don’t have to be friends with them. They can very much be an acquaintance or kiddos play together only and that’s okay. Be exposed to other ways of life for you and your kids to have a well rounded experience but that doesn’t mean you have to change to keep it afloat

Difference of opinions is one thing, like screen time or whatever, but for me I'd struggle to understand someone being anti vax or anti abortion and that's not the sort of person I'd want to be close friends with. I guess with some friends it would never come up so you wouldn't know and I don't go out of my way to quiz people but it's the sort of thing that does come up when you get closer. Idk about dump someone out my my life completely (unless they're constantly banging on about it) but I want the people who are important in my life and potential influences in my daughter's life to believe in science and women's rights so I wouldn't be going out of my way to develop a deeper bond with someone with such a different POV.

We don't need the ability to do this as a society. I can get along and be amicable with someone who holds different views, I can work alongside them... but it doesn't mean society needs me to be friends with them.

I think it comes down to your values if those things aren't important values it is easier to be friends. If the "big opinion" is a deeply held value you likely won't be able to get past it.

If we disagree politically and they don’t tell me to kms or say they hope my kids die or anything else crazy then ya we can be friends just don’t bring up politics. Like at all. No saying “omg did you hear about ____” bc i will not talk about that w you

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Do you think influencers have a responsibility to speak up about important topics?

I follow a very popular influencer who's whole thing is self love and not giving a fuck, but I've seen a few videos from others basically tearing her down saying she doesn't use her platform to speak up about feminist issues and doesn't post about anything important going on in the world, she doesn't give her take on political things etc, and she's just absolutely full of herself.
Part of me is confused and I don't understand why she should need to, but then I also agree somewhat that there's a certain responsibility that comes with that job? Idk, thoughts?

Feeling done

I’m really not enjoying motherhood at all like I miss my life without kids. I constantly feel so overwhelmed and overstimulated, my children’s dad really robbed me from a soft & safe experience. I’ve literally been in survival mode since having my first born and I just feel like I can’t breathe. When they cry I want them to stfu, when they touch me I don’t want to be touched like I feel so disconnected with them and I just don’t want to do it. I do it for the sake of it, bc I love them but it’s like I don’t want this life at all I’m so over it. Has anyone felt like this? How can I move past it I’m tired

Not how I envisioned things…

Just have to vent. I’m 38. I’ve wanted a family since my early 20s. I finally had my baby boy born in May. The only problem now is his father.

We met at work during a period of my life when I thought I was smart enough to know when someone was feeding me BS. I was single and abstinent for four years, just focusing on me. We started hanging out. He constantly told me he wanted to have a baby with me & that he wanted to change my last name. Granted, it was only after a month or so. I should’ve known better, but I didn’t.

I found out I was pregnant in October of 2025, and once I told him, he didn’t want to hang out with me anymore. He said he should’ve never told me he wanted to get me pregnant and change my name, which truly made me sick to my stomach.

He had nothing to do with the pregnancy. He didn’t even know I gave birth. He found out by accident, running into someone I know who brought it up, thinking he knew. Fast forward: a couple of months have passed since my son was born, and he has only called twice. The first time he called was basically to let me know he knew & nothing else. I told myself I wouldn't answer again, but I thought maybe he would change. The second time he called was basically to flirt with me and see if he still has me wrapped around his finger because I'll admit he did when I was pregnant. After all, I wanted it to work even though it clearly was not going to. He never asked me if I needed anything or how our boy is doing. He mentioned he might come visit us; he commented that he would get me pregnant again, to which I replied It’s not happening. He wouldn’t even say our son’s name out loud. He said, “You know who,” & I couldn’t believe he was referring to him. I said I needed to go because I didn’t want to give him a reaction on the phone. He also facetimed me those two times and never asked to see him.

It just makes me sad that he is so detached from the reality that we have a son. All he cares about is messing with me. I just didn’t think this is what my life was going to be. I don’t want to be the bitter baby mama who keeps him away from his kid, but he literally doesn’t ask about him, and I don’t want to answer his calls anymore. All it does is make me sad. Am I wrong for making this decision?

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Feel really worried and scared :(

My husband has been super unreasonable during my postpartum period especially with boundaries around his family. He is now suggesting going to his family’s staycation with my baby who will be 6 weeks old and if I don’t go he is willing to take baby without me. He seems to want to go for a whole day.

Does anyone know if he can do this or if I should speak to the health visitor or something

Birth Control

Has anyone gone back on any form of birth control since having their babies yet? Im so unsure what to do, I never went on any type of birth control after my first as I found my mental health was so bad on the pill, but I don’t want to risk getting pregnant again as we are definitely 2 and done