Guilt all the time
Both my husband and I are struggling with this horrible guilty feeling about our 3 year old son and its difficult to understand why.
We do a good job at parenting him, generally we rarely get frustrated, we never yell, we always try to be gentle and reassure him, we handle tantrums well I think. Our son is a kind boy, he's sweet and funny and chaotic, but also shy and cautious sometimes. However I think we're doing a good job raising him.
But every night we sit together after putting him to bed and think of all the little moments we lost patience, or didn't play with him because we were too busy (we also have a baby so it's not always easy), we both feel so guilty about any screentime (he only gets to watch certain TV programs, he doesn't have a tablet), or we'll feel guilty if we didn't do anything that day or stayed in most of the day.
Are these feelings normal? I feel like a total failure every night and I don't know why because I know on paper we are good, loving parents. I just wish I could do more, offer him more time, better food (I'm a terrible cook but I try my best), better days out, better activities in the house, it all just feels overwhelming and like he's not happy. I know he is happy most of the time though, he just has his moments like every other 3 year old and is starting to have some really big feelings.
Does anyone else feel guilt like this every night even though you know you're doing a good job??
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