When do the neglectful habits stop???

So my bf (31) and I (26) have been together almost 7 years. We have a 5 and a 1 year old. I’m getting so tired of his shit…

Every night, he goes in the room, lays down, gets on his phone, and eventually goes to sleep. He leaves his game and tv on, leaves the lights on, if there’s clothes or other things on the bed he just scoots them to my side of the bed, and I’m TIRED.

Tonight, I’m trying to get ready for bed. I’m diabetic so I had to do my shot, take my supplements, use the bathroom, clean off our 1 year olds table, fill up my Stanley, and change diaper. Our youngest is ATTACHED to me. I’m still breastfeeding and my bf likes to use that as an excuse to not get him to sleep or hold him while I do my night routine. Tonight, he tried to bring him to me while I’m trying to use the bathroom, got mad bc I said no, then took my Stanley that I had just filled up, drinks some of it then gives some to our toddler, then goes in the room saying “shut up you on some goofy shit.” Atp I’m irritated. I don’t understand why he can’t take care of his own son. Why do you have to annoy me when I already don’t get any help.

I wanna leave him so bad things like this happen everyday and I’m just emotionally numb and exhausted. Am I overreacting?

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Guilt all the time

Both my husband and I are struggling with this horrible guilty feeling about our 3 year old son and its difficult to understand why.
We do a good job at parenting him, generally we rarely get frustrated, we never yell, we always try to be gentle and reassure him, we handle tantrums well I think. Our son is a kind boy, he's sweet and funny and chaotic, but also shy and cautious sometimes. However I think we're doing a good job raising him.

But every night we sit together after putting him to bed and think of all the little moments we lost patience, or didn't play with him because we were too busy (we also have a baby so it's not always easy), we both feel so guilty about any screentime (he only gets to watch certain TV programs, he doesn't have a tablet), or we'll feel guilty if we didn't do anything that day or stayed in most of the day.

Are these feelings normal? I feel like a total failure every night and I don't know why because I know on paper we are good, loving parents. I just wish I could do more, offer him more time, better food (I'm a terrible cook but I try my best), better days out, better activities in the house, it all just feels overwhelming and like he's not happy. I know he is happy most of the time though, he just has his moments like every other 3 year old and is starting to have some really big feelings.

Does anyone else feel guilt like this every night even though you know you're doing a good job??

Early weaning?

I know the NHS recommendation is 6 months, but I’m aware you can technically wean from 4 months/ 17 weeks. My baby is currently 5 months and I was considering trying a baby porridge mixed with her normal milk to make it runnier, before trying actual solids at 6 months, like carrot etc. She can hold her head up great, and sit up in the high chair, bouncers etc ok but at times will flop/ tilt her head forward and I’m not sure if this means she’s not ready or not? She also can’t sit up on her own yet outside of high chair/ container

Separating

Partner and I haven’t been getting on for awhile. TBF he doesn’t talk to me and when he does it’s just negative and rude. Tonight I told him I’m sick of negative behaviour and always being so negative about everything. He told me to fuck off and go. We have kids and own our home. I don’t work atm looking in setting up a business where I can work from home. If I leave (he won’t) what helped would I get? I don’t have any money to cover rent every month as not working yet and I have read with job I want to do not all landlords will accept me doing the job from home (Childcare). How do people have the courage to leave? I have worked since I was 15 years old and had my own place since early 20’s so now I feel lost and have no idea where to start. This isn’t what I want either, I just feel they hate me being around

Who's right

My 6 year old son at this time of night, I gave him a small bowl of crisps chessy favour, when he was finished he wanted more so I said no no more untill 2 moro. His father wen and done the opposite and give him another bowl. So I'm the bas parent. Who's right

Moms who struggle aswell..

Is there times where you feel like a complete wall to your child?..one time I told my son to stay in his room at least 12 times and nothing. even taking stuff away or giving him something it doesn’t last.

Dad , grandma , + everyone else doesn’t have to repeat as much as I do.
I also get yelled at by him if he gets told no or to wait. He tends to get louder and louder and he’ll throw stuff at me or hit me.
he’s 2.5 years old. I understand it’s hard at this age but I just wish i could do it like everyone else can. This is also my first so when these situations come around almost 24/7 when I’m home and not at work I get stressed , angry and overwhelmed to where I get a little loud and shake.

Just needing advice and help on how to handle this and maybe find conclusions.

Gonna lose my shit

LONG POST
For starter these were also me
I’m legit at my point, literally sick of my husband. I’m stuck paying EVERY bill, last month I had to get the one car serviced & I put it on my AR (comes out of each pay), I had to ask the owners for a pay advance (comes out of each pay). I’m literally stuck paying it all, I get paid this Friday & it’s already gonna be $694.93 (electric, gas, garbage, water, twice for daycare) then in the middle of it there’s a $406.84 car payment. I’m literally over it. I should not work full time (8am-5pm) m-f while he’s home everyday (he only went to work 2 times this month) not cleaning, not doing anything besides just drinking. I literally get off work, get the kids, come home, make dinner, all while the kids always need me, they’re Velcro, clean, get accused of fucking/wanting my coworkers. Earlier today after I got home he said he’ll sue me & whoever I leave him for. Do everything, then he wonders why I hate him or won’t have sex with him. I’m legit at that point where I just say shit I don’t mean (ex: this is why moms off themselves, or I hate my life) anything like that. Then when we fight he says he’s just gonna 302 me, he’ll take the kids, take the house we just got ($1344.77 mortgage), take everything. Yet he DONT work.