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Mum and baby parking

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with my first and sometimes my partner and I park in mum and baby spaces in the supermarkets, but I feel guilty as we don’t have children yet I’m only pregnant.
What do you think about it?

I've come to the conclusion

I'm never going to make friends. I think it's because I'm not miserable in my marriage, nor do I consider myself a "married single mom." I can drive, I have a routine, I love my life. My kids don't bug me, I don't regret my life decisions. I'm excited for the future. I have hope.

Like I'm bummed because I don't have a group of ladies to call my besties, let alone one bestie(besides my hubby. He's wonderful 😍) but I guess that's just how it is in the current year. Smdh.

Gov childcare

Does anyone understand what I’m meant to do?
My 3yo is at nursery 2 days a week and I’ve applied for my 1 year old to go in September (Sept is already too late becquse my maternity leave has ended, so he’s having to be looked after by grandparents).
Well I’ve had to reconfirm our details for the free childcare… and they’ve asked for my last 3 months payslips.
The last time I was paid on maternity leave fully was April. May I hardly got anything, June I got nothing. And for July, I’ll get the payslip at the end of July and they need it all by the 23rd of July.
I’m so angry, idk what to do. And if they decline the funding- what then? No way can we pay for them both to go to nursery because it’ll cost more than my wage.
I’m just fuming

Help me I’m drowning in mum guilt/ heartbreak as maternity leave comes to an end

I know it’s pretty normal and I’ve been blessed with a year of maternity leave (use of savings after 6 months) so I shouldn’t feel this as much as others but I have to go back to work full time in less than 2 weeks. I keep mentally counting the hours I get to see my baby in the week and it just feels like nothing. Ive been with him 24/7 apart from some medical appointments when he was with my mum. What if our bond is affected? Atm I’m his world and I just feel like he’ll not need me or love me as much (big trauma background with own family). His dad gets to work from home most of the time so will see more of him as he’s with mum for a couple of days and then a childminder the rest of the week. I have to go back to full time work. How on earth do people do this? 😭😭😭😭

Money issues!

Can a relationahip survive money issues?

Eg.Partner A being a SAHP after losing their job in a bad way leaving trauma. Partner A now looks after the coupls 4 year old audhd child.

Partner B works full time from 6-2. Up until recently it was 5:30-2:30. Previously it was 6-3. So roughly the same hours. Partner B also travelled for work and spent roughly 5 of the last 12 months away working.

Partner B earns 6 figures.

Partner B gets stressed about money and snaps every now and again. It's random stuff too; Partner A picked up some latte sachets on sale, B snapped. Kettle gets broken, B snapped. Partner A needs to go see rectal specialist. B snaps.

Situation currently sucks and both need help.

Can the relationship survive?

Childcare / tax free childcare UK

Hi,

I’m a sahm and my 3 year old will be starting nursery in September. I’m planning to go back to work when he does. Not really got a career to go back to.
However, I won’t be eligible for 30hrs funded hours as my husband earns just over £100k. Only would be eligible for 15hrs which means I can’t really go back to work.

I’m getting really frustrated because I feel like we’re getting penalised for a parent earning £100k. Whereas 2 parents could earn £99k in a household and would be eligible for the 30hrs.

Anyway besides the point. I thought it would be good for me to go back to work and we could atleast get the tax free childcare which is 20% off childcare costs for him. And I could get a little bit of my independence back. However, I’ve just found out that if a parent earns over £100k then we won’t be eligible 😭
I was hopeful as the 20% off would really help and make it a little worthwhile for me to go back to work.

Does anyone have any advice? Or anyone been in the same position?