Venting/advice?

I got pregnant after my boyfriend and I had only been together for about 8 months. We were pretty solid up until then, but after I found out things started to go downhill. It wasn’t always, but he would have spurts of getting upset with me, telling me he didn’t want this or to be with me, etc. but then come back and be excited and tell me he loves me. After she was born he told me that he finally felt complete and couldn’t love anything more, wanted to marry me. She was born in April and since then there have been multiple times that he has lashed out on, saying he doesn’t want this and never wanted a kid. This past one has been the worst yet. It’s been a week now of no contact or communication. I’ve tried reaching out but there has been no response. It’s never gone this long before and I’m not sure how to handle it. I love him and I want us to be a family, I never wanted to be a single mom. I’m just not sure how to go about this or what to do from here.

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Something I’ll always remember is when someone said “once someone shows you who they are, believe them.” It seems he doesn’t want to be a father or be with you anymore. I know this isn’t what you want to hear or what you want for you or your baby. Coming from a dysfunctional family, it’s better to be just you and baby than for you to fight for him & try to make things work, your baby will grow up in a house full of fighting & arguing. I’m really sorry this is now your situation as nobody ever wants to be put in this situation. Sending you & baby love 🤍 if you have family or friends who can help support you, reach out to them so you’re not completely alone.

Neglect is abuse. It’s a pill that took a long time to accept but once you do, you start to notice abusive tactics. They’re all the same, just recycled. Anyone who would leave you in confusion does not care about you. Anyone whose words do not align with their actions does not love you. I know not many people want to be a single parent but better a single household with peace than a two parent household with chaos.

Honestly I got pregnant my baby dad before we got together and he would do the same thing even after we broke up and it took time to realize that our daughter should not grow up in that kind of environment and I had to put her first even if that meant I had to do it on my own

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I've come to the conclusion

I'm never going to make friends. I think it's because I'm not miserable in my marriage, nor do I consider myself a "married single mom." I can drive, I have a routine, I love my life. My kids don't bug me, I don't regret my life decisions. I'm excited for the future. I have hope.

Like I'm bummed because I don't have a group of ladies to call my besties, let alone one bestie(besides my hubby. He's wonderful 😍) but I guess that's just how it is in the current year. Smdh.

Gov childcare

Does anyone understand what I’m meant to do?
My 3yo is at nursery 2 days a week and I’ve applied for my 1 year old to go in September (Sept is already too late becquse my maternity leave has ended, so he’s having to be looked after by grandparents).
Well I’ve had to reconfirm our details for the free childcare… and they’ve asked for my last 3 months payslips.
The last time I was paid on maternity leave fully was April. May I hardly got anything, June I got nothing. And for July, I’ll get the payslip at the end of July and they need it all by the 23rd of July.
I’m so angry, idk what to do. And if they decline the funding- what then? No way can we pay for them both to go to nursery because it’ll cost more than my wage.
I’m just fuming

Help me I’m drowning in mum guilt/ heartbreak as maternity leave comes to an end

I know it’s pretty normal and I’ve been blessed with a year of maternity leave (use of savings after 6 months) so I shouldn’t feel this as much as others but I have to go back to work full time in less than 2 weeks. I keep mentally counting the hours I get to see my baby in the week and it just feels like nothing. Ive been with him 24/7 apart from some medical appointments when he was with my mum. What if our bond is affected? Atm I’m his world and I just feel like he’ll not need me or love me as much (big trauma background with own family). His dad gets to work from home most of the time so will see more of him as he’s with mum for a couple of days and then a childminder the rest of the week. I have to go back to full time work. How on earth do people do this? 😭😭😭😭

Childcare / tax free childcare UK

Hi,

I’m a sahm and my 3 year old will be starting nursery in September. I’m planning to go back to work when he does. Not really got a career to go back to.
However, I won’t be eligible for 30hrs funded hours as my husband earns just over £100k. Only would be eligible for 15hrs which means I can’t really go back to work.

I’m getting really frustrated because I feel like we’re getting penalised for a parent earning £100k. Whereas 2 parents could earn £99k in a household and would be eligible for the 30hrs.

Anyway besides the point. I thought it would be good for me to go back to work and we could atleast get the tax free childcare which is 20% off childcare costs for him. And I could get a little bit of my independence back. However, I’ve just found out that if a parent earns over £100k then we won’t be eligible 😭
I was hopeful as the 20% off would really help and make it a little worthwhile for me to go back to work.

Does anyone have any advice? Or anyone been in the same position?

Roommates with wedding photos

What do you do, when your husband is a great man, a great father. Your best friend…. But the love isn’t felt, the spark haven’t been for a while, you don’t argue, you have good times out, but your mates, there isn’t affection unless it’s occasional sex, no kisses just mandatory goodbye pecks. He doesn’t love me how I want to be loved, is that horrible to say when he’s a great man?

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Looking mom friends text and getting to know it hard being single mom myself. Nice text moms and get to know one another and to vent too?