Ex man rant!

Ugh why are men so nasty! This man was the perfect guy at the start. I ignored the first red flag when he started talking bad about his baby mum, saying she didn’t treat him right etc ect, but he took all of my feelings into consideration, told me he was considering marriage with me, even said he wanted to have a baby with me! Everything was so perfect but then the cracks started to show around two months in. We were arguing a lot more, he shoved me out of the way into the door when I was trying to talk to him, he always found it so easy to leave. Told me I was too controlling, all because I asked him to spend some more time with me! He said he loved my son as if he was his own but in the next breath was moaning about how my son cries too much and I need to be tougher on him! Every argument was my fault, he would turn it around on me and blame me for everything! But this all stemmed from the fact that we had four dates in six months and he only brought me flowers once, and that was because I asked him! The effort stopped and his true colours came out to play when he started making comments about my weight, my mental health and how much smarter he was than me. He claimed he made so much time for me but whenever he came round all he would do is moan and sit on his phone! In our last phone call conversation he said to me ‘you’re lucky I don’t hit women, otherwise I would boot your door in and give you a slap’.I feel so sorry for any girl that ends up with him. He is the definition of a toxic narcissist. Just feel like I need some support at the moment, rant over 💔

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He starts with that! Wow. Mask slipped quick girl.
You can't protect future woman, they need to see this walk-in red flag for themselves, you can only do you. I'm so sorry you experienced this, and that he was around your son for even a minute.
Throw the whole man away and don't look back!

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that’s why I hate the narrative that the mother of the kids is just bitter um no she’s literally warning you and these men don’t like that

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