recently moved out to my own place with my partner after living with parents it all feels so weird and lonely and more tiring.

i feel depressed but cant really and dont even have anyone to talk to about it, i just keep going because of my baby but sometimes its a lot on me. i cook, clean and take care of my baby everyday alone until my partner comes home but i feel bad having him take care of her because he has a hard job. i just dont know if i will ever adjust and be happy and cant even imagine having another baby right now. i wanted another but now being in my own place and seeing how difficult things are as a SAHM i dont think i'd want another for quite a while.

will these feelings ever go? what can i do?

in our community

Unexpected cost I can't get out of

Sibling is getting married in Japan.

I have 2 kids. For me and my partner flights have already cost about £3000.

By time I add on hotels that another £1500.

I haven't even factored in spending money and food out there.

I'm pregnant and will be in maternity leave during this period.
So this is just going to make finances even tighter.

What would you do?

If your toddler (3 years old) pulled down an entire dresser & everything ontop of it what’s your reaction?

their fathers dresser, not even their own.

Accidentally Found Shady Stuff abt Hubby

Me and my husband share a Google account mainly for the maps. I wanted to look back to see what Thai massage place we used to go to but instead found he searched for a “massage parlor” and went to a sketchy place that has had arrests for prostitution when we were together in 2020. He has visited some other questionable places upon seeing the list of all massage places visited on his Google and before we started dating there were quite a bit of “happy ending” massages in Amsterdam, Paris, Canada, where it is technically legal but the 2-3 I’ve found he went to since we’ve been together are in states where it is illegal. He even looked up red light district multiple times and “how to say condom in Dutch” after searching for red light when he was in Amsterdam before we started dating. This seems like a pattern and something that doesn’t just stop but instead got more savvy about it in my mind.

I am a sahm with no bank account currently so I feel I need to get my ducks in a row and save up some before bringing it up because this could possibly blow up our marriage.

Has anyone been through this? Any advice?

1st birthday gifts!

My boy’s first birthday is coming up and family are starting to ask what to get him. We don’t have a lot of storage space so I don’t want him to end up with loads of stuff lying around that he won’t use again after a couple of months. What toys etc did your kids get the most use out of at 1-2yrs?

Nursery - am i wrong?

So me and my husband have 2 girls - 2 year old and a newborn. We have both decided that we wont send the kids to nursery.

My eldest is non verbal and we are waiting to speak with professionals about potential autism.

We don't want to send them as we dont trust anyone to watch them bar family. I am so so paranoid and genuinely have nightmares of my kids being abused.
I lose sleep at the thought of my daughter being upset or lonely & not being supported. Intrusive fucking thoughts.

His family have a LOT to say and have even said that we are neglecting them by keeping them at home? My husband has said he also wants to homeschool when they are older.

Me & my hubby work opposite days so childcare is always sorted.

Am I wrong for not wanting to send them? Has anyone else not done nursery & homeschooled?

All I've ever heard are bad experiences & the news kind of confirms this for me.

Where are all the kids hiding nowadays?

I have memories at 8 years old of playing and riding my bike around the neighbourgood, going to the park or swimming every chance I got, feeling safe and having a funnnnn childhood.

It feels like alot of kids nowerdays are couped up in the house. Watching the TV.

Maybe it's just the area I live in now. But where the hell are the kids at. Lol

How often do you take your child out to the park, swimming, bike rides etc

I barely see this now in the UK