In Law’s went through husband’s phone while he was medicated preparing for surgery.

This post is exactly what it states, my in law’s went through my husband’s phone in his state of vulnerability and they see nothing wrong with going through our text messages. I am completely infuriated and then his mother wanted my baby to spend the night? when I said no she said she wasn’t comfortable with me visiting my husband (he is staying at their home for his recovery)

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Guys, I have in law’s from hell.

I’d give my husband an ultimatum honestly. This isn’t healthy for you.

Did he not have an issue with his parents going through his phone?
Also, I see in the comments you said you've given him ultimatums, so why stay still? Is it out of necessity, fear, theres still love, or you just dont want to?

Everything that goes on with ur inlaws is ur own Husbands fault. HE needs to establish boundaries with his own parents. HE needs to be the one who tells them when they have crossed a line. Bt if he isn’t doing that, then that’s what makes ur In laws cross those boundaries cuz ur own partners has t drawn the line in the sand

Also there is mom on here who is in a similar situation. I tried to tag her bt it won’t let me. Bt I think her user name is Emily Marie, bt long story short, I think u both are in the same situation cuz she annouced last week in a post that she is divorcing her husband cuz he is too much up his parents ass and now he is recoverying from surgery at his parents house etc. the situations sound almost identical so I’m saying maybe she will see this post and u two can connect x. I’m so sorry ur going thru this bt ur Husband is 100% the problem. HE needs to be the one who tells his parents to stop crossing boundaries. When people don’t listen to words, then u have to start taking action. Bt ur in laws will only do what u allow them to do

What cultural background are your in-laws Incog?

Was it both your MIL & FIL who went through his phone? What was their reasoning? Did they think he was going to die or something? Or were they just plain ol snooping?

When you told your husband they were reading your messages, what did he say to them?

If your husband is a momma’s boy and his mom enjoys babying him - the issue here is NOT your in-laws, it is your husband. If he refuses to cut the apron strings and you also refuse to divorce him, you need to accept this is your life and deal with it. He’s not going to change.

As the saying goes, changing nothing and expecting a different outcome is the definition of insanity.

Whaaaaaaaat?! This is NOT OKAY.

That is SO invasive and crossing so many lines!

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Hey! I don’t know what I’m wanting to get out of posting this but I just maybe don’t want to feel like the only one! I’ve been on mat leave since December, baby born in January. At the beginning my husband was so good with me and the baby etc. as time as gone on I just feel like all he sees is how much he is supporting us and 100% he is, he goes to work everyday and works long hours etc. he is supporting us financially and couldn’t ask for more in that aspect as I’m really not greedy.

But I feel like now - I do everything. Cooking (90%), cleaning, washing clothes, keeping up with the house maintenance jobs etc. and I sort everything for the baby, don’t get me wrong he does bits and bobs for the baby but I’d say compared to me it’s 80/20. I just don’t feel like he cares or sees how much I do. For example we’ve just come back from being away and I’ve done anything, washed all clothes and sorted everything so it’s back to normal and he’s sat there on his phone the whole time. I asked him to nip to the shop and he said “well I bought this and that and drove us to holiday and back” I just feel like he thinks he’s so hard done by but I don’t ever get a chance to just sit and chill. Right now the baby is napping and I’ve chose to sit in the garden even though there’s chores to do; just to have some time! Sorry this is really long but does anyone relate? Xx

In Law’s went through husband’s phone while he was medicated preparing for surgery.

I hired a girl from the care app and I guess after a few time she got comfortable and started having personal convos on the phone.. should I leave her a bad review or just not use her again?

On top of that inappropriate convo. I understand if it was family or friend to be on the phone but she was getting paid hourly. My daughter is 1.5 yrs old. She was on the phone for like an hour and a half with like 3 diff ppl and I even have a video of her telling my daughter to say hi on ft.

Why does my husband do this?

It's really warm in the UK right now, plus I'm dealing with postpartum sweating (I'm 12 weeks PP)

I take our 3 year old to go run some errands, pick up some packages and grab a couple things for dinner, then my husband calls me when we're put asking if I could go to his parents house to check on their dogs because they're out and got delayed and were worried about the dogs in the heat/needing to pee etc, so asked if he could check, but he's home with our newborn and since I'm already out it made sense for me to just nip into their house, so that's fine.

So after getting the packages and then going to the shops, I haul my 3yo back into the car and we drive to my inlaws, back out the car (I also carry all our shopping into their because I had to park in the sun and the food would get roasted in the car and go yuck, I had salads etc ANYWAYS)

I sort the dogs, we play with them I'm the garden and let them out for a wee etc, then I haul my 3yo and shopping back into the car, and drive home, then back out the car and carry everything inside.

Obviously with this weather I am sweating my backside off. I walk in and start putting the shopping away and my husband walks up to me and pokes my ribs just below my armpit and says "eh you're really sweaty" like duh of course I am. Does he think I can't feel it or something. I say "I know I've just been running about" and he says "I'm just letting you know in case you didn't realise" 🥴 Idk i know it sounds dumb but it just felt like he could've says thanks or offered to help me with the bags or something?

Would you go again?

We went to my MIL’s yesterday, she didn’t really spend much time with us, she got ready and said she had to go to a friend’s event. She told the kids she’d be home the next day and that we should come back then.

We stayed there until around 9pm, so honestly I don’t feel like going again today, especially with the kids. She’s just called me (I didn’t pick up), probably to ask if we’re coming.

Am I being unreasonable for not wanting to go back again today?

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In Law’s went through husband’s phone while he was medicated preparing for surgery.

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In Law’s went through husband’s phone while he was medicated preparing for surgery.

I hired a girl from the care app and I guess after a few time she got comfortable and started having personal convos on the phone.. should I leave her a bad review or just not use her again?

Why does my husband do this?

Would you go again?

Baby not weaning