Why does my husband do this?

It's really warm in the UK right now, plus I'm dealing with postpartum sweating (I'm 12 weeks PP)

I take our 3 year old to go run some errands, pick up some packages and grab a couple things for dinner, then my husband calls me when we're put asking if I could go to his parents house to check on their dogs because they're out and got delayed and were worried about the dogs in the heat/needing to pee etc, so asked if he could check, but he's home with our newborn and since I'm already out it made sense for me to just nip into their house, so that's fine.

So after getting the packages and then going to the shops, I haul my 3yo back into the car and we drive to my inlaws, back out the car (I also carry all our shopping into their because I had to park in the sun and the food would get roasted in the car and go yuck, I had salads etc ANYWAYS)

I sort the dogs, we play with them I'm the garden and let them out for a wee etc, then I haul my 3yo and shopping back into the car, and drive home, then back out the car and carry everything inside.

Obviously with this weather I am sweating my backside off. I walk in and start putting the shopping away and my husband walks up to me and pokes my ribs just below my armpit and says "eh you're really sweaty" like duh of course I am. Does he think I can't feel it or something. I say "I know I've just been running about" and he says "I'm just letting you know in case you didn't realise" 🥴 Idk i know it sounds dumb but it just felt like he could've says thanks or offered to help me with the bags or something?

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I am aware this is a very lucky position to be in, so please don’t think I’m complaining, just trying to navigate!!

My husband is starting a job at some point in the next couple of months tbc where his salary will be just over 100,000. We are hoping to up his pension contributions slightly so that we are entitled to the 30 hours, as otherwise my salary becomes completely redundant/we will be paying more in childcare than I earn. He is starting this job after having to leave his previous role which ended in March.

How will our eligibility be assessed when a) he has been unemployed for the past 3/4 months
b) he is going to adjust his salary but obviously hasn’t yet

Is it done per tax year, calendar year, is there anyone I can talk to, like a helpline etc?

I am a teacher, so my daughter needs childcare from Sept 2026.

Grateful for any help xxxx

I don’t feel seen 🫠

Hey! I don’t know what I’m wanting to get out of posting this but I just maybe don’t want to feel like the only one! I’ve been on mat leave since December, baby born in January. At the beginning my husband was so good with me and the baby etc. as time as gone on I just feel like all he sees is how much he is supporting us and 100% he is, he goes to work everyday and works long hours etc. he is supporting us financially and couldn’t ask for more in that aspect as I’m really not greedy.

But I feel like now - I do everything. Cooking (90%), cleaning, washing clothes, keeping up with the house maintenance jobs etc. and I sort everything for the baby, don’t get me wrong he does bits and bobs for the baby but I’d say compared to me it’s 80/20. I just don’t feel like he cares or sees how much I do. For example we’ve just come back from being away and I’ve done anything, washed all clothes and sorted everything so it’s back to normal and he’s sat there on his phone the whole time. I asked him to nip to the shop and he said “well I bought this and that and drove us to holiday and back” I just feel like he thinks he’s so hard done by but I don’t ever get a chance to just sit and chill. Right now the baby is napping and I’ve chose to sit in the garden even though there’s chores to do; just to have some time! Sorry this is really long but does anyone relate? Xx

I hired a girl from the care app and I guess after a few time she got comfortable and started having personal convos on the phone.. should I leave her a bad review or just not use her again?

On top of that inappropriate convo. I understand if it was family or friend to be on the phone but she was getting paid hourly. My daughter is 1.5 yrs old. She was on the phone for like an hour and a half with like 3 diff ppl and I even have a video of her telling my daughter to say hi on ft.

In Law’s went through husband’s phone while he was medicated preparing for surgery.

This post is exactly what it states, my in law’s went through my husband’s phone in his state of vulnerability and they see nothing wrong with going through our text messages. I am completely infuriated and then his mother wanted my baby to spend the night? when I said no she said she wasn’t comfortable with me visiting my husband (he is staying at their home for his recovery)

Would you let your child keep watching?

My LO has stumbled upon a YT kids series called - Omar & Hana and now asks to watch it anytime she has screen time. It’s an Islamic preschool series. We’re white British, not religious but not anti religion nor are we judgmental to others who are.

It doesn’t seem harmful to me to let her watch but she is soaking it all in like a sponge and is learning a lot as it’s all focused on teaching prophets and praying to allah. She is occasionally saying bismillah now.

I don’t really know anything substantial about any religions including Islam and Muslim faith. So do I let her keep watching? Any advice for me if I do let her keep watching or not? Is there anything I should know? How do I explain anything if she has questions?

Why does my husband do this?

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I don’t feel seen 🫠

I hired a girl from the care app and I guess after a few time she got comfortable and started having personal convos on the phone.. should I leave her a bad review or just not use her again?

In Law’s went through husband’s phone while he was medicated preparing for surgery.

Would you let your child keep watching?

Why does my husband do this?