Breast-feeding and formula feeding support

Frustrated with comments on your breastfeeding?

Not trying to rant or be negative I promise! 😅

I can’t be the only one whose friends and family comment on their breastfeeding journey.

Of course, I get the “Good job, mama!” comments, and I really appreciate those. But I’ll admit, I’m always caught off guard by the negative or questioning ones.

“Is she getting enough?”
“You have to feed her a lot!”
“Are you sure she’s not just giving up?”

For context, my baby is happy, healthy, and gaining weight really well. Yet people still seem to question whether I’m making enough milk for her. Why is that?

I’m trying not to let these comments get to me, but they honestly feel a little inappropriate. Like… how dare you?! 😂 I would never question another mom about whether she’s making enough milk for her baby.

Has anyone else dealt with this? How do you respond without letting it get under your skin?

in our community

Do you get slightly annoyed when comments go completely off topic to what was asked? Examples below

Some examples from things I posted or saw:
1. I posted a while ago asking if anyone gave birth alone (by choice) so that their child was safe at home with the other parent. Immediately people were like "I wouldn't give birth alone" "you need someone there" or the icing on the cake was someone commenting "your husband shouldn't let you do it alone"...like it's my choice he's not "letting me" in any way 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ just none of those comments are what I asked, when I said specifically those who HAVE

2. Someone states they aren't doing nursery (and are not changing their mind) then people comment how it's needed for this and that or how great it is... Again not what was asked

3. Someone having a tough relationship and someone posts that their partner is great and how they didn't experience this or that, when it wasn't asked

4. Someone asking about a C-section and advice on them and people coming on and saying "it's a major surgery I wouldn't" or "you should try vaginal" when they CLEARLY stated that they ARE getting a C-Section

I just find it slightly annoying as in I shake my head because I find some people can't read the room

Boys and there parts

So my baby boy is 11 months old and I can’t seem to get a nappy change done with-ought him grabbing his baby parts and yanking on it😅. The poor boy doesn’t know when to stop and end up hurting himself but he’s far too young for me to teach him that he can’t pull it like that. We do no nappy time and all he does is play with it, now before anyone says it becouse I know I would I’m not bothered about him playing with it it feels nice to him and that’s all it is for him however I need to find a way for him to stop hurting himself anyone els baby does this and is there anything I can do for him to stop hurting himself or just let him learn

Detergent for newborn clothes

What do you wash baby’s first clothes with? I’ve heard lots of people mention fairy non bio - but not sure if liquid or powder, and is it better to go for something scent free?

Am I a terrible person?

I've been reading through some archived messages on fb from groups ive been in in the past, some going back a decade or so.
A lot of them include arguments, ones where I'm called homophobic (I'm bisexual and use the same jokes that many in the community do), ones where I'm called racist (i grew up in an extremely racist family to the poont i used to hold my breath around people who weren't whote and british. I have since changed completely and now fight my family over their views) ones where I'm told I'm argumentative, ones where I'm called a spoiled brat, ones where I'm called a liar.
I've started to notice that people just hate me in general for who I am.

Am I truly just a terrible person?

As a side note, I was diagnosed autistic at 25 years old. They didn't need to speak to anyone else because it was obvious from just me that I was autistic.
I've also had mental health issues all my life from bullying and terrible genetics which potentially contributes to me being a dick.

I do try and be a nice person but sometimes I do one thing wrong and people go off on me or I'll copy what others do and people will go off on me but not the person that did it first 🙃

Help!!

My LO is 4 weeks old and won't stop feeding. We had a rough start to breastfeeding due to some complications with birth and then she was jaundice and wouldn't latch, so she started being cup fed in hospital, then syringe fed and then moved to a bottle. I started pumping whilst in hospital at around 3 days PP but she was having to have formula as well as I wasn't producing enough. She was found to have a tongue tie which was snipped nearly 2 weeks ago. Since then, shes been latching great, we've managed to slowly reduce the amount of bottles in the day, and I'm desperately trying not to give any more bottles of formula. The last 5 days or so, she will not let me put her down at all, she is constantly showing hunger cues, so I latch her. During the day she normally sucks for 5-10 mins before falling asleep, but then as soon as I put her down, she'll be wanting to feed again. If I don't put her down and continue to hold her, she'd probably stay settled. I continue this all day, until the evening, where she will latch forever, last night she had been latched for over 2 hours in the space of 3 hours, and still will come away unsettled. I end up giving her a bottle every evening still because I cannot continue, and genuinely think we would carry on like that all night if I didn't. I know this is likely cluster feeding but it feels excessive. I am worried that I am still not producing enough for her, and thats why she won't settle, because she is genuinely still hungry. When I pump, I only get between 0.5 oz- 1.5 oz. combined. I am latching her between 10-18 times a day at the min, and she will feed anywhere between 5-55 mins, so am struggling to find the time to pump in between, especially seeing as she won't let me put her down. I know everyone says giving a bottle is the worst thing you can do for supply, but I also don't think I'd get a second of sleep if I didn't give it! My partner works away from home so am struggling to get anything done at all. Sorry for a huge rant, but any advice would be appreciated, or just to know I'm not alone in this 😅😅

Returning to work

Anyone else returning or have returned to work already?? My little girl starts nursery in 3 weeks and I’m feeling so many emotions🥹

I’m excited to get a bit of ‘me’ back and I know she’ll have so much fun, but I also feel guilty, sad, anxious… basically every emotion going! 😭

We’ve started introducing daytime bottles and trying to get into more of a nursery routine, and it’s suddenly hit me that this chapter of our lives is coming to an end. I’ve absolutely loved being home with her and can’t believe how quickly these months have gone.

I’d love to hear from any mums who have already gone back to work or are about to. How did you cope with the transition? Did it get easier? Any tips for making those first few weeks a little less emotional?

Please tell me I’m not the only one who’s had a little cry about it already. 🥹💛