Potty training
My toddler is 32 months and we've been trying to potty train him for months. At his daycare, they have a potty room and they practice throughout the day. But when he moves up to the next room, he needs to be "fully potty trained." That can happen anytime between turning 3 and 3.5 years old. It depends on readiness and space in the room.
I bought a set of cloth pullups on Amazon, but they were way to thin. Plus he genuinely did not care that he was wet. Admittedly I got very discouraged and gave up quickly on cloth.
My mother in law (wonderful person) watches my boys every Thursday. Since she has hardwood floors she uses disposable.
We switched to disposables, and have been using them for months. He is good at going pee when we bring him to the potty, but he has no idea or urgency to go to the potty.
I also have a baby, and so I am struggling with balancing holding and playing with the baby and potty time and time with my toddler. We don't go to the potty a lot (several times a day, but not every hour), as I don't want it to be a fight (he normally goes there willingly for my mom, mother in law, and me. My husband can rush him at times, and then there's a fight).
I was desperate and slurged on a pack of the Upairy training pants. They are slightly more absorbent, but the Large (largest size) is skin tight on my toddler. It doesn't leave red marks on his skin, and the boy is pretty vocal regarding things being too tight, so I believe they are okay, but I don't think I'd buy more based on how snug they are on him. Today is day 1 of trying the cloth ones.
I keep reading that cloth pull ups are better, but I dont know. He genuinely did not care that he was wet and dirty twice now.
Are all the adds my social media is feeding me true, and I need to switch to cloth pullups?
Helpful tips on getting your partner on board for scrubbing poop out of cloth pull ups (or even carfully removing them from the toddler)?
We are using a reward system. He has a potty chart with 100s of sticker. He gets a small prize every ten times he goes. He likes earning stickers and prizes, but again he doesn't have the urgency to want to go potty.
Should I stop being friends?
I met one of my best friends about 5 years ago and I was pregnant with my first kid. She told me when we met that she had been trying for almost a year with no avail. Fast forward 2 years and I was pregnant with my second and she was still not pregnant. She told me at work one day that her SIL had stolen her girl name and named their daughter that. Her SIL told her that she couldn't have kids anyways so it was fair game (fucked I know). So then my friend told me another name that was special to her. It was very specific to her culture so I didnt even think to hold that name in my mind since I had never heard it before. Well fast forward another 2 years and I was pregnant with my third and she was still trying. My husband and I were stuck on the middle name the whole pregnancy. We got to the end of the pregnancy and I was in labor and my husband mentioned he had a cousin who was great and offered her name as a middle name, since I wanted a family name I accepted it because my middle name is awful and my other daughter already has my moms middle name and my MIL didnt want her middle name used. After I had my third, I sent my best friend a picture and her announced her full name. My friend then told me she was super happy for me and she doesnt want to ruin my moment but my new daughters middle name was the name she had wanted for her future kid. I apologized profusely and told her I hope she still uses it and that I never use my kids middle names. After about a week she deleted me off IG and stopped responding back. I wrote her and confronted her, asking if this was because of the name thing and that I didnt do it maliciously and it was a last moment decision. She told me that she needed her space and that she was very upset and knew she couldn't be a good friend right now. I was freshly postpartum and she was one of those friends that actually would come and see me and bring my kids presents and hang out. I cried for a good six weeks because I had lost my only friend that I talked to daily on the phone. My husband was super pissed and was calling her fake. He told me that the name we used was super common in their culture. He said its the Kate or Jessica of their country. I told him I think its more that we've had 3 kids and we could have picked anything but we picked her name she wanted. She was dealing with infertility and here we are popping out kids. He was like that's still not our fault and she can't control what people call their kids. Anyways he doesnt want me to be friends with her anymore because he doesnt trust her but he said he isn't going to say I cant do it, just that he doesnt want her around our kids anymore.
She ended up getting pregnant right when we stopped being friends and she just had her baby a few days ago. Her baby is very underweight and struggling. She has been calling me and asking questions and telling me things. Mind you, we are the only ones in a large friend group that are going to have kids. The remains friends known they dont want any. I was soo excited to have a mom friend. Anyways, I bought her some premie clothes and was going to bring them to her but my kids were freaking out nap time. Do you think I should just let the friendship die out?? Am I being a people pleaser? 😭
