Potty training
My toddler is 32 months and we've been trying to potty train him for months. At his daycare, they have a potty room and they practice throughout the day. But when he moves up to the next room, he needs to be "fully potty trained." That can happen anytime between turning 3 and 3.5 years old. It depends on readiness and space in the room.
I bought a set of cloth pullups on Amazon, but they were way to thin. Plus he genuinely did not care that he was wet. Admittedly I got very discouraged and gave up quickly on cloth.
My mother in law (wonderful person) watches my boys every Thursday. Since she has hardwood floors she uses disposable.
We switched to disposables, and have been using them for months. He is good at going pee when we bring him to the potty, but he has no idea or urgency to go to the potty.
I also have a baby, and so I am struggling with balancing holding and playing with the baby and potty time and time with my toddler. We don't go to the potty a lot (several times a day, but not every hour), as I don't want it to be a fight (he normally goes there willingly for my mom, mother in law, and me. My husband can rush him at times, and then there's a fight).
I was desperate and slurged on a pack of the Upairy training pants. They are slightly more absorbent, but the Large (largest size) is skin tight on my toddler. It doesn't leave red marks on his skin, and the boy is pretty vocal regarding things being too tight, so I believe they are okay, but I don't think I'd buy more based on how snug they are on him. Today is day 1 of trying the cloth ones.
I keep reading that cloth pull ups are better, but I dont know. He genuinely did not care that he was wet and dirty twice now.
Are all the adds my social media is feeding me true, and I need to switch to cloth pullups?
Helpful tips on getting your partner on board for scrubbing poop out of cloth pull ups (or even carfully removing them from the toddler)?
We are using a reward system. He has a potty chart with 100s of sticker. He gets a small prize every ten times he goes. He likes earning stickers and prizes, but again he doesn't have the urgency to want to go potty.
Paying back childcare costs ? 😪
Husband has limited company and didnt do great last year, turns out his salary was 9000, ive been claiming 30 hours childcare, my salary is 40k but his salary would make us not eligible i believe, I expected him to earn more though dont know if that makes a difference.. does anybody know about this, im panicking im going to have to pay nursery fees back!!
Thanks xx
How do you get past the mental exhaustion and fight the urge to give up while feeling unsupported?
Rarely do I open up to my bf because he’s not very supportive or at least he doesn’t know how to be. I feel like I’ve hit rock bottom, I got laid off during my mat leave, I’ve been living off unemployment which isn’t much, 75% of my bills are either past due or are being paid but my mom and bf and I have to pay them both back. I feel chronically stuck. I’ve been procrastinating on getting things done because they just seem so hard. The only thing I’ve been doing 100% is being a mother to my 5 and 1 year olds. Cooking, cleaning, teaching, etc. I’m so tired. I’m so drained. I don’t feel like me anymore. Therapy isn’t helping. Idk what to do …. And my bf is no help as a father. He doesn’t come home and take over, he doesn’t ask me if I want alone time, he doesn’t always respect my boundaries. I wanna cry but my nervous system is in overdrive so my body is protecting itself from any emotional distress and I literally can’t physically cry. Pls tell me it gets better. And am I crazy for feeling unsupported based on what my bf said ? Idk I don’t have the energy to care anymore. Send help
