I’m 7 weeks pp and It feels like my husband hates me…

The first thing my husband did when we got home from the hospital after having our babygirl is throw my pregnancy pillow across the room…

He asked what I wanted as a push present, I gave him some ideas, he didn’t get me anything. He only got me a present after I gave him gifts for his first Father’s Day…I didn’t get anything for Mother’s Day either.

Our 5th night home, I was bawling my eyes out and crying out in pain because my nipples hurt so badly due to being so new to breast feeding and from exhaustion. He was next to me in bed and on his phone…didn’t ask if I was okay or if I needed anything.

Those are just a few of the many. I don’t know what to say to him at this point because he just shuts me down or becomes super defensive whenever I try to talk to him about it. I feel so alone.

in our community

Am I doing something wrong?

I’m so frustrated, I feel like I’m failing, like I’m doing something wrong with my 1 year old. He still doesn’t get he needs to tilt his head back to drink from a cup, and I can’t figure out how to teach him that.
Also he used to climb the stairs no problem and two weeks after putting up a gate now everytime I ask him to fo upstairs he just freezes and I have to carry him up.
And lastly, his feeding. Pediatrician told us no more formula and only 16oz of whole milk a day. Got it, but how much food are you guys feeding your toddlers? He woke up at 5am today hungry, like I’m clearly not doing something right, and now I’m exhausted, and I want my baby to succeed, and be independent and I get so frustrated and sad like I’m bad at being a mom.

And on top of that, we have this friend couple that had their baby girl a week after out baby was born and the guy keeps comparing our kids and I get so annoyed, there’s nothing wrong with my baby boy but it makes me feel even worse.

Sorry, I needed to vent

Realising you married the wrong person

We were once in love, a decade ago. Now just two ships passing in the night. No friendship no intimacy no relationship nothing. I’m 6 months postpartum and suddenly my hormones seem to have plummeted I feel so low and I don’t know why. I love my children but all I seem to do is snap at them. I haven’t spoken to my husband in days. I just walked into his office and said “sometimes it’s nice to have someone to speak to” and he replied “I’m good I don’t need anyone to speak to” when I explained I was speaking about myself he responded “I asked if you were ok you said you was fine” put his headphones back on and looked back at his screen.
I think it’s time to leave.

Husband and help

This week I have been cleaning non stop I love to have my baby in a home where it’s clean especially where she plays etc our living room is always clean bc of ME! My husband works and when he comes home I’m still cleaning, I clean the kitchen and the cat room, I’m taking care of our 10 month old daughter all day while I do this. He comes home I had dinner ready we ate, I’ve changed our baby gave her a bath today and diapers, I cleaned the kitchen while my husband played with our baby, mind you she can be with both of us, I desperately thought “ I wish he would say that he would clean the kitchen, but that didn’t happen mind you I cleaned this kitchen all week after day after day. Sweeping and mopping etc, dinner put away. I hear him picking up the babies toys in the living room that’s it. Stuff still all misplaced on the counters and couch etc. I give my all to clean and he barely does anything to help. I am exhausted. I also work part time, but most days I am up at 7-8 am with our baby taking care of the house and her. I just want help. Or for him to even take over.

Lies about applying for jobs

I feel crazy AF going to look at his job applying apps.....but he's a applied to 12 jobs last time he applied was a month ago.....
He keeps talking about needing a job but games all day and reads manga......
At this point as a disabled mom I need to find a job that'll accommodate my need for a walker or allowing me to sit. I can't keep waiting on him....
He just got done talking about wanting a game which I usually would buy for him but this is getting old and in at my limits.
Ive paid for cigs, phone bills, energy drinks, his rental(before it got repossessed).
He thinks he owes me nothing cause he used the car for the family but I'm on SSI....i pay all of my bills alone.....hes never paid for a bill I'm over him making mistakes which causes me financial strain.

Wisdom tooth removal

I’m due to have my wisdom tooth removed next week, i wasn’t nervous until i googled it and now I’m freaking out. Although i know i need to have it removed because it’s causing so much pain and multiple infections.
But also i have a 2 year old, and although my partner will be home the evening of me having it done, he will be working the next day. Will i be capable of looking after my son the day after?
Also, any tips and advice would be greatly appreciated and reassuring comments to! 😩
Thanks

IS THIS A COLD SORE?

My mom gets cold sores and always has. I have never. My mom and daughter (2.5yrs old) always kiss on the lips and i ALWAYS tell them "NO!!!!" My mom knows my concerns and always replies, "I havent had a cold sore in a long time." Tonight, I noticed this on my child's face and im freaking out. Getting her stabbed for herpes (cold sores) tomorrow. Thoughts?