Exhausted

I am so exhausted from constantly being told by my partner that im lazy, I dont do enough, that I dont appreciate him enough blah blah blah. I am the one who has looked after our baby boy from the day he was born doing everything. I did everything during his nicu stay with no help or support from my partner. We were in nicu for a month and I can probably count on one hand how many times he came and saw our son in nicu. I am the one who does everything for our son, does all the night feeds, bath, keeping him entertained etc etc. Yet im apparently lazy because some days i can't even empty the bin as baby boy wont let me have a second. Im lazy because im exhausted after being up all hours looking after our son. Im lazy because ive gained weight and im currently not prioritising loosing it right now, oh and I also have a auto immune disease which does help with my weight either. But anyway... all I get is negative things from him

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Preschooler asks if Disney princess (Elsa, Ariel,ect) are real. Are you ruining the fun and saying no? Or lying?

My 4 year old has been very into asking if things are real. We talk about how magic isn’t real and now she’s asking if Elsa is real. She loves Elsa and we have seen her at princess party things.

I ultimately asked her what she thought and she pieced together that since Elsa has magic, she isn’t real. I’m a little worried that I have taken the fun out of princesses. 😅

In a pickle…

MIL fell out with us since Mother’s Day (March 2026) because she said my LG is 6 months old and she’s still not had her on her own. She asked if we don’t trust her or something in which I replied not really because you haven’t show me the confidence you can look after her. (Bearing in mind, she comes once every 10 days and stays for an hour at most, never offers to change her nappy when she’s around and doesn’t give her bottle. Basically knows nothing about her. When she was 4 months she told me to lie her in the bath to let her splash). I haven’t spoken to her since March after she stormed out, but in the mean time my husband went to speak to her about what happened and cut a long story short she’s blaming me for everything and now has asked my husband to pick our LG to go her house without me. I’ve said to husband if she wants to come and see her she can come to ours, if she doesn’t agree then I will go with them to MIL house. What would you do in my shoes?

Partner Rant

Why do I feel so angry? He is a great dad but crap partner.
In my eyes he puts himself first and his needs, gym everyday 630am then goes straight to work. (which in the 2 years we have been together he has NEVER been to the gym). Today has gone for an all day tattoo session he works mon and fri 9-5 so weekends are what I class as family time. He won’t even offer to get up with the baby to give me a a lay in, I’ve mentioned it but every time I do it becomes an argument and we go back normal. He also has a child from previous relationship so we have him every other weekend and he is pre teen so doesn’t want to do anything so we get dictated by him on what we do on his weekends which my partner just allows. Along with the attitude and disagreements that I have to just grin and bear.

I feel like I have to beg for him to spend time with his baby and me. When he is home he is on his phone or moaning he tired ALL THE TIME.

I love him and I really want to make it work but at the same time I feel like I am being taken for granted in my own home.

Advice please 🤍🙏🏻

How many meals a day is your LO having?

Just wondering when to make the leap from 2 to 3 meals a day at this point (9 months). Whenever we have tried a 3rd meal one of the others tends to fail ie not as much interest or consumption.

October 2023 Babies - Starting School

Hey mamas,

Hope you're all doing okay & haven't yet passed out with the British heat we've been getting recently 😬😭😂

My daughter will be 3 this coming October (🥹where😭has😭the😭time😭 gone?!😭)

I'm wondering, if mamas with kids around the same age, have you started looking at/applying to schools yet?

What are the first steps that I need to take?

The idea of it all is very overwhelming & I don't know where to start 😬😟🫪

Am I being selfish

Me and my partner are moving in together next week and I’m excited but everything is always down to me… we both have a bad back problem but he refuses to do any work so I’m the one who’s looking for a job. Which means he stays home with our daughter but he always uses his back as an excuse not to help out or even take her to the park. He doesn’t really clean up after himself or even shower and I’m expected to do everything atp. He always gets moody if I ask him to take baby girl out while I tidy/ apply for jobs or have me time.