How to grow?

How do you stay progressive when you are a mother?

It almost feels impossible at times. Almost like my goals have stopped, meaning while my partner chases his.

I feel like I'm falling behind.

I always aimed for a promotion every 2 years or would move jobs for more money.

Maternity leave was soo bad and I have alot of unexpected cost which left me in debt. I have only just managed to clear it.

But the reality is being a mum comes and wife comes with alot of mental load. Don't get me started on working a job. Theres no time to feed into myself, my goals or even think about what's next for progression.

How do you stay progressive? (level up in life?

Like at this stage of life, are you where you thought your be?

I honestly thought I would have multiple streams of income. But I'm struggling mentally with this 1 currently have.

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I don't, I work 3 days a week in a pub because it's the only job I can find flexible enough to work around childcare. I don't have family who are able to help so my son goes to nursery 2 days during the week which is funded by government aid, and I work one day at the weekend. The other days I stay home and care for him.

I've struggled with the same thoughts of thinking I'm going to struggle getting back into my career and feeling like everyone around me is advancing when I'm far behind. Especially since we plan to have more kids it could be years yet before I get back into a better job. But my partner changed my perspective on it, he said right now I'm sacrificing my career to raise my son, which is hard but we'll all be working till we're in our 60s/70s as long as we're fit and able, and this is time we'll never get back with our children and memories they'll always cherish. So even if it means chasing our goals a little later than others, it's still possible to get to where we want to get, we have time

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I need to rant.
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But we just keep getting tired and tired.
Our nights become earlier.
Husband and I are too tired to hang out.
We have a 3 & a half year old daughter. Whom we adore.
The amount of exhaustion we have from her constantly telling us to look, how fast she wants to show us something from one thing to another, the talking.
We are great parents and know what we are doing, we tell her when it’s time for quiet time but we are dealing with a very energetic kid.
She’s in day care but we still can’t recover.
Do you believe that?

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He just said no, he has a physical job and his body needs rest. He said he'll end up ill if he doesnt get his sleep. Im just really tired and expected to do everything all the time because im on mat leave.

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