Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

Feeling very alone in mother hood I don’t have a village …

My mom helps me a lot don’t get me wrong and sister but as the kids are older it’s been harder I was having a hard time with the kids she suggested to go to the house and sleep there and I told her maybe for a few days and she made a
Nervous comment saying “wow only tonight because your dad is out of town and I would like to clean the house “… I get it but at the same time she sees me struggling really bad I’ve helped her even told her to stay a couple of days at my house with my sister when she’s having problems so I kinda got hurt over that comment I thought it was a perfect time to stay for a few days because my dad was out of town and my brother still hadn’t moved back in yet but nope I think if it would’ve been longer I would’ve felt better but after that comment I felt very unwelcome … and then I’ve been struggling for months with mental health and I was telling her stuff and she just didn’t seem to care like maybe she did but didn’t know what to say anymore to me … when she stayed at my place I did everything I thought was good and talked to her …she was my go to person but lately I feel like I’m bothering her more then anything and it’s not always my problems it’s to talk about our day or the kids and she sounds like she wants to get off the phone with me all the time…

She used to help me more but it seems different idk how to explain… almost feels like I can’t ask her and no it’s not everyday thing my kids go to her like 2 times a month and when I go to the house I stay there for like 4 hours and they just give an extra hand but I don’t go everyday either … she has been having her own health issues so I try to think about that and not be selfish so I don’t ask if she’s feeling unwell but I do talk to her on the phone and she seems annoyed like right now shes out if town she doesn’t even reply to my texts as much either …. Just kinda seems like she blows me off now idk she knows I’m struggling right now when she was struggling I helped her so it just seems like she doesn’t care …

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Childhood trauma

I had a pretty traumatic childhood, right through until I was living independently at 18.
Since having my first baby 4 months ago I’ve gone no contact with my mum, mainly because I haven’t heard from her so I’ve decided to completely cut ties.
I didn’t really process my childhood until I had my own child and I’m struggling processing it all and all the memories that constantly flood my brain. I can’t understand how two people can have a child and neglect them so badly. Bully them and make them feel awful about themselves. Get blind drunk and put the pressure of looking after young babies on other children.
Anyone else been through something similar? I’ve always brushed it off but now knowing how much I love my child and how I would do anything for their happiness, it’s hit me how little my parents really cared for me and only now it hurts so badly. My husband doesn’t understand and just says I should consider therapy and doesn’t get why I’m suddenly heart broken over a parent who has always been shit to me and nothing has changed. My friends all have good relationships with their parents.

Braxton hicks!

Sharing for awareness - 33 weeks and yesterday I had serious braxton hicks.

My entire belly was going rock hard and this was lasting upto 1 hour at a time. Personally, when my belly is so solid I find it hard to feel any movements inside too. So rang triage… ended up going in - had all mine and babys obs done on CTG. All absolutely fine🙏🏼. Midwife explained to me that braxton hick tightening can last a fairly long time (not always 1-2 minute bursts like i thought it was). Aslong as there is no pain alongside them then it is not generally cause for concern. 🤰🏻

Wasn’t pleasant either way and hoping for less stress and braxton hicks today!

12 month development

Hi guy, wanting some help/advice. I have a 12 month old son. He hasn’t such much yet only dada and up but with no intention/context. He hasn’t clapped/pointed yet. He does understand so much, waves, high fives and shakes hand. Any advice or if someone related to this before? Thank you so much. Worried mom here.

Having a hard time emotionally at the moment but you know what at least I showered today.

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Leaving babies while awake

Looking for some reassurance that others do this and I'm not just an awful mum 😅

Baby is safe in their next to me looking quite content - I am watching on the camera having a bath... but can't bring myself to relax because I feel bad they're awake...
Any other mamas need a little me time?
Obviously any sign of upset and I'd be straight out!

Hellllp! 🙏

I have a beautiful 22 month old girl. But I’m really struggling with figuring out if her behaviour is normal or not as this is my first child and I don’t have any younger family members so any advice would please be so amazing!

My daughter was always a fussy baby, I did take her a few times to the health visitor for check ups but they always told me just some baby’s have bad temperament and also the fact she was breastfed could of contributed towards it.

I stopped breastfeeding around 17/18 months old, she’s just generally very moody. She does have her happy moments when I take her soft play/play group/park anywhere she can play and socialise she’s fine but other then that she’s constantly crying all the time from when she wakes up to when she goes to bed. She HATES having personal care done. Brushing teeth/hair/nappy change/washing she’s screams,crys and kicks till it’s over. She will not sit in the pushchair for even 5 minutes. She’s never been too fond of it but I would at least get 20 mins in to run an errand now she won’t even sit in it at all. I have to carry her everywhere I go no matter how far it’s gotten to the point where I don’t even take the pushchair out anymore because my shoulder was getting too much pain from holding her while pushing an empty pushchair. I know that’s a bit enabling but I couldn’t physically push it and carry her anymore. She has these melt downs. They will last around 20-60minutes but it’s not normal crying it’s inconsolable screaming/hair pulling/kicking she will even try climb onto the coffee table and go near the edge I don’t know if it’s a reaction thing. Her sleeps amazing. She wakes up at 5am every day but sleeps solidly through the night and has a 2.5hr nap in the day. Her earrings also amazing I am so grateful but I am so emotionally and physically exhausted I am terrified to have more kids! I do have gp for her again in a few weeks but nothing ever comes of it. Every day every task is a physical battle of screaming and stress sometimes she screams so hard she literally falls asleep of being so exhausted. I tried giving pain relief but that never helps unless she’s teething

Sorry for the long post if anyone has ever been through anything similar may I please hear any advice I don’t want to have my little girl be under so much stress and I am really feeling at rock bottom ❤️