Marriage
2 days before our daughter was born, my husband's ex messaged him. He was very open about it. Personally, I would've hit block right away but he claimed he needed closure. He messaged her in front of me then hit block. He reassured me he loves me, it brought up no old feelings. Blah, blah, blah. A week after our baby was born I found out he unblocked her. He said it was so she could see his profile picture and see how good he's doing. There were no messages. Well, that made me suspicious.. Couple weeks later I go through his old phone which still has access to his email. I find out he made a fake snapchat the day after his ex first messaged him. Which was the day before our daughter was born. When I asked him about it, he gave me his word it's not his. That he's not dumb enough to make a fake account with his main email. This went on for days where he made me feel crazy for accusing him of having a fake snapchat. Well, day 3.. That fake snapchat is permanently deleted. He said he emailed snapchat support and told them someone was using his email. I was like that's funny considering it happened once I found out about it. So I told him to show me the messages to snapchat support. That's when the truth came out that he did in fact have a fake snapchat account. He swore up and down that he never cheated but we all have different definitions of cheating. I told him to recover it but he says because there's nothing on there, I'm just going to accuse him of deleting it all. It has been almost a month now and I'm even more upset about it because it was made the day after his ex hit him up. So was he talking to her on there? There were 3 females I had seen message him. I messaged all them asking about it and none of them will respond. And the way he lied for 3 days!!!! That's not the man I married. Has this whole marriage been a lie? I don't trust him at all anymore. Yesterday, he had gotten upset with me saying I'm making him out to be a villain when he's not. Uhhh, what?? I have nowhere to go. Our daughter is only 7 weeks old. It's been a lot.
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He's a narcissist and it so sad your intuition is on point .it just seems like marriage these days are not what they are suppose to be
To add more to the story....
2 days before our daughter was born the owner of the house decided they wanted to remodel without a heads up. So the day before, we had to sleep in a hotel room. The day we got discharged was also in a hotel room. We came to stay with my mother in law because we had nowhere to go which was only supposed to be temporarily. Well, it's been almost 2 months and they're still remodeling. Owner wanted to charge us so we decided to live with my mother in law. Which I love. But it's in a small room, I still don't have access to all of the baby's things or my things. We'll have no space for them once I do have access. I'm an hour and a half away from my job. So until I find a new one, I have to commute. It's just more shit to the shit show!!
Oh gosh poor you wish I gave you a hug if you were close to me!! 🤗 Your going through a lot had a baby, your husband’s loyalty and the house issue
The house issue you can always go back once it’s done and or find another place for example ( I know it’s tough now but houses can be found and moved) but your husband’s trust issues is my main concern tbh. Nothing can change this man not words or make him understand having a good wife and a newborn baby by him is actually priceless in this world If he ain’t using the screws not sure what anyone can say.
Stand your grounds sit with him alone and be firm and tell Him directly no more lying or talking to any female friend or exes. What if roles were reversed!? Full stop. And hopefully this would make this man realise his got a good life at home for him!
I’m lost for words… you need respect, reassurance and stability in your marriage and with your newborn child together.
Best of luck and hope it all works out for you!!! 🤗
I’ve just really come to learn between peanut and the Facebook groups “Are we dating the same guy” that most men are all liars/cheaters and narcissists.
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