Bassinet advice bc I’m exhausted

So even been co sleeping. I know I know. But that night at 4am I just couldn’t anymore. But now that he’s getting bigger and is sleeping through big stretches now. I really want him sleeping at least most of the night in his own ”bed”.
Ive tried to put him in there already asleep, almost asleep, awake but drowsy, ect but he just lays there kicking or just start crying. I don’t mind co sleeping with naps sometimes I need a nap too but for actual bedtime I need help getting him to stay in there for sleeping.
We’ve been up for two hours since he woke up to eat, he’s in the bassinet looking like he wants to sleep but he keeps kicking his legs and not letting himself fall asleep.
Dude hates being swaddled just screams until he’s free so that’s not an option.
I just want to be able to actually sleep instead of lay here with my brain still half conscious. Been forced laying still through the nights so much that my hips and legs hurt from not being able to fully stretch and relax.
Kind advice please.

-one exhausted FTMama

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small victories

just wanted to share something that made my little mum heart happy today!! i exclusively pump for my son due to my mental health when i first had him but today while waiting for a bottle to warm up i decided to try giving him my boob because he was really fussy waiting and he latched very well and fed for a couple minutes while we waited.

i chose to pump mostly because my hormone crash in the first week postpartum made breastfeeding feel too overwhelming but i still wanted him to have breastmilk since i knew i had plenty (i oversupply). i always kept the possibility of occasionally nursing him in the back of my mind as an emergency plan if we ended up out of the house without a bottle for whatever reason but i have been quite worried that, since he hadn’t nursed since he was a few days old (he’s now 6 weeks), he would have trouble going on the boob and was too used to the bottle but he fed incredibly!! he latched better than he did when we were in hospital and it was far more comfortable than it previously was.

i know it might not seem like that big a deal since i pump anyway and i know i have plenty milk but those few minutes honestly has healed some issues i had with nursing. my outlook on breastfeeding has improved immensely and after a day of a very fussy baby it was exactly what i needed.

a small win or i guess a small confidence boost but it feels huge to me. so i just wanted to share

Co sleeping HELP

Once baby (11 weeks) settles around 9/half9 for the night she will sleep till about 1ish, will feed and will go back to sleep. And would only really wake another 2 times for a feed change ect and go back to sleep in her next to me bed. Now after she settles it’s either her first or second get up of the night she’s very light sleeping, gets unsettled and soon as I pick her up she sleeps in my arms, soon as I put her down she’s fussing again. All of a sudden this has started to the point now where I’m having to put her in bed with me and I hate it it scares me but it’s the only way we sleep. I also don’t want to make an habit of it but I don’t know what’s gotten into her. Please help, advice? Or anything lol?

Coughing at night

Does anyone else’s baby cough at night? I have a 10 month old and he is absolutely fine in the day but at night he has random coughing fits and they sound terrible he’s so loud with it and it wakes him up. I give him some water and settle him back down. I don’t know if this is just normal at this age or something else?

This or that? I need advice

Okay, long story short my 4mo daughter likes to sleep on her side, and she sleeps pretty much 8-10 stretches on her side. Which is fantastic, however, hubby is worried of SIDS which I get but I dont think its that serious. Shes been sleeping on her side for about a week and a half now, but hubs wants her to sleep on her back to ease his stress. Which i know "back is best" but she literally wants up every hour on her back or swaddled and on her back. Sooooo I need advice, I know every baby is different but I dont want to lose my sanity every night waking up every hour. She HATES being swaddled and having her legs restricted. Do I buy Merkins Magic Sleep suit, a Love to Dream sleep sack, a MomCozy Sleep Sack OR should I buy something else????? Im at a loss, my first born loved to be swaddled, but my 2nd hates it, and I dont really know what to do.😭😭
Please help me mama's
Also, to add: she has a pretty decent startle reflex as well, and is worse on her back, but pretty much none existent on her side. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

Postpartum must haves for mum and baby?

Hey all,
First time mum to be here due January 2027 🥰
Just looking for some recommendations for things that you found extremely useful after having baby for either yourself or baby. Also anything’s you would say not to bother spending money on.
I’m going to have a baby shower in November time and have started a wishlist and a few friends have told me to also put things on the list for my recovery for if I have a natural or c section birth and it got me thinking what’s some things you couldn’t have done without or things you didn’t expect to be as great as they are? Or even something someone bought you or baby that you couldn’t be without/ are extremely grateful for 💞

All answers are really appreciated I’m just interested to find out your answers ☺️

Second Trimester Bra

Can anyone recommend a good bra that I can wear for the rest of my pregnancy. I’m currently 19w, every bra I own now has an underwire and if I wear it for more than 5mins I feel physically sick. Also the skin on my boobs dries out really quickly, I’ve tried lanolin but it’s still an issue.

Any tips?