True or false?: there is nothing wrong with saying you hate breastfeeding as a breastfeeding Mum

I'm tired of the judgemental looks or comments I get when I speak about how I hate breastfeeding...a lot of it comes from other breastfeeding Mums or as I like to controversially call them: titty police/breastfeeding cult. Another reaction I get is that I need "mental health help" 🤦🏼‍♀️ the main issue is women who had an easy journey become ignorant and judgemental, but there is nothing wrong with hating it. I can still do what's best for our son but I don't have to like it. True or false?

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I hate it too! Still did it for a year with both children!

Id personally have major respect for anyone who breastfeeds while also hating it because you’re putting your baby’s needs before your personal preference.
If it’s affecting your mental health or your ability to care for yourself or your baby/other children, then that requires support, but we all do things we hate as parents for the benefit of our children, you don’t have to love every aspect of parenting

It’s definitely weird for people to say when someone actually is breastfeeding too🤣 whether you are or not you can still hate it. I absolutely hated being pregnant but I still willingly did it twice and love my kids lol

I hate it sm but i do it for my kids

With every fibre of my being, I HATED breastfeeding.

The thought of breastfeeding baby 3 almost puts me off a third child.

I love motherhood but fuck me, I was glad the day I stopped.

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