Night rage

My toddler is 4 and has been awake since 2am (now 5) I just got so frustrated with them for not sleeping I shouted and hit the bed with my hand which immediately made them start crying the guilt I felt was immense at my outburst. So extra comforting apologised explained I'm tried and sorry and love them so much and listed all the things I love their family love etc and gave cuddles and head strokes.
I'm a single mum and struggling with no help or not as much as I actually need and if I'm honest I'd be someone who NEEDED night help but it never came. I just feel so guilty for what I just did. I am a general gentle parent but I will have outburst of just pure rage and I feel so awful like I'm going to damage my child.

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You are only human and sometimes we get overwhelmed. The way you reconnect after is important and sounds like you did that extremely well.

I'd be looking at routine/timings to see if anything could help with the night wakes. Also look at how you are responding/what you are doing when they initially wake to help them be as short as possible.

It’s a completely natural response when you’re tired and frustrated.

Seems like a lot.. I'm sorry you are going through it. It's completely natural to do that when tired and overwhelmed. I'm guilty of it and I'm sure all mums have done it at some point. Don't beat yourself too hard.. your children are fine. Some extra cuddles will do the job!
You are a lovely mother, period.

Genuinely thank you all so much 🩷 to just hear other mums have felt the same at times when we're tired

I just came on here to say I’m in the same boat. My 4 year old was up for hours last night and was melting down over the most minor things at 2am in the morning. So I started shouting at her. She woke up this morning with a raging temperature and was sick so the mum guilt is real! We’re all human and as long as we repair we are doing our best xx

What you call night rages sleep deprivation probably. Doesn’t mean you’re a bad mom that you did this. It means that you need more support. I am so so sorry.

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