‘It’ll get better’

Been having a hard few days with my little one and he’s started being very sicky after feeds which was something he only did occasionally before. He is 4 weeks and seems suddenly really fussy! I’m sleep deprived and all everyone keeps saying is “ it gets better” - which I’m sure it does but does anyone else find that really unhelpful when you’re in the newborn trenches and feeling hopeless 🤣 I know people mean well!

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Yup. Thats all im hearing right now. She has just screamed for no reason than overtired. So now sitting consoling her till she finally falls asleep.

I remember people always saying this to me as a first time mum and I would get really frustrated. Like you said people mean well and speaking as a second time mum it's so true it does get so much easier and you will look back on the newborn trenches with a weird "It was so hard but went so quick" feeling later on.
However that doesn't take away from how bloody hard it is in the moment!
When I was first in those newborn days I wish people would just listen to me rant and validate my feelings. Pregnancy, giving birth, adjusting to being a parent, having a newborn, god it's one of the hardest things anyone can ever do! Last thing we need is to feel like we aren't allowed to acknowledge how hard it is. Even if you have one of those unicorn babies like I did with my first who would eat, sleep, repeat. Your whole world has changed! You are learning the hardest job in the world with no instructions on how to do it.
You will get through it. Take things day by day ❤️ there is so many exciting and fun things to come.

Also thought I would add that even as a second time mum I have those feelings of "omg is this my forever. Will I ever sleep again" and questioning everything I am doing. However I find that now I have that mindset of knowing that nothing lasts forever and the only constant with infants is change.
I found it got so so much easier around the 6 months age when you start to get a "bedtime". In the newborn days it just feels all consuming. I know that feels like a lifetime away but I promise it goes so quickly ❤️

I would like to know when it gets better 🤣 second baby and I can’t get any sleep unless my partner keeps baby downstairs for couple hours she’s breast fed I’m losing my mind with the lack of sleep

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I just don't think im meant for motherhood.
I had my first child when I was 23, Mentally ill and undiagnosed. And I really struggled. But I had a village so it wasn't so bad. Me and his Dad split before he was 1 but he still helped me so much and we co raised him till a few years ago. Our son now lives with him the majority of the time.
Since then I've been diagnosed and worked on my self. I can control my mental illness a good majority of the time.
I thought I could handle having a baby. And after lots of loss we had our baby last year. And I've managed really well till the last few days. His whinging, crying and screaming has been relentless. And I do manage about 6/7 hours before I feel so overwhelmed I could cry. By the time Dad's home from work I'm ready to just go to sleep.. I just feel like I'm doing a really bad job and I don't have a Villiage this time either. And I don't know the point of this post I just needed to vent ❤️

Would you be okay with a 3.5yo going 6hrs without a nappy change? (Assuming no 💩)

Considering how to manage it when she starts school, they’re fine for me to come in and change her midday and will contact me if she needs a 💩 change, but I’m worried that leaving her twice a day will just upset her more because she might think I’ve come to take her home! And driving back and forth to school 3x a day will be a lot for me. I usually aim for a change every 4hrs but she’ll easily go much longer without a change on a normal day if we’re out and about and never been bothered about it or caused an issue, but I don’t know if the teachers would judge me if I suggested not coming in to change her midday. Is 6 hours bad? It probably won’t even be wet by midday tbh!

(Pls don’t vote if you only have a young baby who needs changing super regularly! She doesn’t wee every 5 minutes like a baby 🙈)

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