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What are we doing for money?😩

I am a single mum with no help from bd whats so ever he has never been a part of it. I work part time and claim UC for rent/top up/childcare. I also have a lot of loans to pay off from moving house etc. I started selling my socks/feet pics/that kind of thing, i have just been told i have to record in on UC which i didn't realise because i thought if it was under and certain amount or it wasn't a business or employment you didn't have to. ANYWAY that will deduct from my UC (depending how much it is) but im worried they may ask me to pay some back AND if they deduct money in the future then im not actually making any more money then before so that defeats the whole point of doing the OF in the first place 😩😩 HOW ARE WE SUPPOSED TO AFFORD AND SURVIVE AS SINGLE MUMS, is there any other way to earn more or do i just be in debt all the time? 😩

Sorry that was long, i needed that 😂😭
Thankyouu x

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My baby daddy wants to get back together..

For some background, my baby’s sperm donor is 34 with 5 other kids (3 baby mommas). I’m 22 and the 4th baby momma and my son is his 6th kid. He’s never been a present father in his other kids lives. He was a very toxic and controlling person in the relationship. He started telling me who I could and couldn’t talk to early into the relationship. When he got angry lots of harsh things would be said and if he was mad enough objects would be thrown or hit. I had finally built up the courage to leave before I found out I was pregnant and got back together to try and work it out for the baby. But about 4 months into the pregnancy nothing had changed and it got worse, he even told me he didn’t want his son around a woman who wanted all that freedom… I got away again by turning him into the sheriffs department, as he had an active warrant for his arrest for not paying child support for this other kids. He’s been writing me from jail wanting to fix things and prove he can be a good father. But I just don’t believe it, in 16 years he was never a father to any of his other kids. What makes mine different. Am I in the wrong for not even wanting him in my son’s life? I personally believe inconsistency and his behavior/attitude towards me is worse than him just not being an active part of our lives.

Sex question

I’m 36 weeks pregnant and whenever I orgasm my head severely hurts it just recently started I don’t know if that’s something normal I never used to experience it before is it something to be concerned about?

Group chats

Don’t create or join a GC if you’re going to be a complete bitch. So many groups I’ve joined have been full of mean girl energy and it’s pathetic. Have your experienced this?

Contraceptive patch

Anyone using the patch? I've just started using it and I put it on my upper arm but realised it's not a good spot for it. Where have you put yours? I don't know what spot on the body is the best for it

Dinner

Smoked greens with Turkey neck , yams , corn bread and lollipop chicken y’all I’m so greatful I was able to eat amen 🙏🏽

🤷‍♀️how to not care

Some might say I’m overthinking but idk. My coworker friends have all suddenly quit one by one within a few months from each other. I know the job was fine but the management sucked. And since I have been on maternity leave it seems that everyone has lost contact with me. Only me. How do I know this because they post get togethers on their stories and didn’t even asked me. Why do I care right? Because I thought we were more than coworkers, but friends. We would go to events all the time, dinners, outings but since I’m the only mom of the group I feel now forgotten. Is it selfish for me to feel this or should I try to just accept that I’m going to need to look for new friends and just move on.