Mommas, do you believe there’s such a thing of “spoiling” your newborns?

I have some people tell me that I spoil my newborn by holding her too much. She is a month old. Anytime she cries I tend to her. I give her contact naps when she’s fighting sleep and I hold her when she wants to be held.

Does this bother anyone else like it bothers me? I don’t know, this is my first baby and I want her to feel secure and loved.

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Whoever told you this is really broken. All she knows is you! I wish I could back and hold my baby even more at that age. You hold her and cuddle her as much as you want!!

there’s no such thing. they can’t even form habits yet and there is scientific evidence that supports not letting them “cry it out” bc it literally stresses them out and can alter their nervous system. so no ur not spoiling ur child.

Yeah I don’t believe there is such thing as that either , baby’s way of communicating is crying . Some people are just trauma dumping .

I agree, you are your baby's world! Love her as much as you can 😊 showing love is not spoiling. You got this, mama!

Some places say 1st year they dont know others say they may start to understand after 9 months. But as of right now no you sre not spoiling they are communicating their wants and needs . My husband says to let my baby cry a little and I say no because if he's crying its for a reason and its my job to find out why. Maybe he was startled. Maybe I had him and laid him down and realized he was no longer in his safe plac3 as when he f3ll asleep. Maybe he's hungry or went to the bathroom. But I am there to tend to his needs. So no u can not spoil them this young

I’m so sorry people are saying that to you. You hold that baby as much as you can.

God gifted my my rainbow baby and I am spoiling myself because who knows if he will give me the chance at another

You can’t spoil a baby. Their first natural instinct is to want their mama. You keep doing you and hold and love on that baby because you can never get this time back!

Baby’s cannot be spoiled!

Please pleeeaaasse listen to your heart, to your gut, listen to your momma instincts. Listen to that sweet baby.
DONT listen to other people.

I don’t believe you can spoil a newborn. They aren’t neurologically developed enough to form habits yet. And to be honest, The only person I think has an opinion on how a newborn is treated is the person who birthed them. So what if you want to hold your baby 20 of 24 hours? You hold that baby as much as you want! You earned those cuddles! Right now all that baby knows is YOU. 💚

Fuq no

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Im being called selfish and cruel.. Being told that ill be too out of it to know if anyone has held her anyway..
Is ther anything i can do?
I've told people many of times and no one other then my mom is listening to me

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