Labour Guests

I’ve been talking to my sister about when I’m in labour and who I would want in the delivery room, which is just under 20 weeks away.
It’s my first baby and I honestly have no clue what to do because I want it to be me and my partner alone, but then I would also like my mum there because it is my first, and my mum was there for my sisters first and I want her to be there when im having the baby. But she can get a bit too much sometimes and I don’t want her to be stressing me out more than I probably already will be. Is there away for my mum to be there but come in only when I call her in or ?

Please help 😅🥲

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I'm 10 weeks away and having just my partner, but my mum and dad will be at the hospital restaurant if I change my mind. Or I want a KFC and my dad will be my uber delivery driver 🤣

I've heard stories of the doctors and nurses at my local hospital being really good at getting people in and out based on the mother's needs, and also the protection of the baby to try and reduce the stress levels.

Your best bet is to speak to the hospital that you are delivering in and see if they can do that x

It’s a very personal decision. I’m close to my mum but I would not have wanted her at the birth 🤣! I only wanted my partner there

How do you get on with your sister? Have you asked if having your mum there was actually a helpful experience for her? Also you don't have to do it just because your sister did. My SIL had my MIL in with her but I personally saw no benefit to having my mum there and neither did my sister. I actually don't know many people who have their mum's with them, it used to be the normal thing because the men were off drinking or something 😂🙄 but I don't think there's an expectation any more that mum is in the room. You could have her first on the call list when baby is born, I wouldn't have her there just to send in and out of the room, you might find you end up keeping her in out of awkwardness even though you'd rather she was out.

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