Cheering myself up tips? Need to vent - it’s long, sorry.

I’ve only just entered the third trimester and all of a sudden in just a few days I’ve gone from being so happy and calm and now I am fed. TF. Up.

My ass is enormous, feels as big as my bump, my maternity clothes don’t fit over my butt anymore. My arms and breasts are like pumped full of air. I’m tired all the time and hungry but constantly full. None of the maternity clothes fit and it’s still so humid and hot WHY DID I GET PREGNANT DURING SUMMER
I tried to be so chill during the heatwave and didn’t complain but now the summer is continuing I am just done with it. I don’t want to wear anything tight or summery, I want baggy trackies in winter and pyjamas and big jumpers 😭🤣

Baby is always sitting so so low down as well - please just get off my bladder so I can sit down for 5 mins without going to the toilet or go for a walk without feeling so heavy down there. Thirsty all the time but know I’m going to have to pee shortly after any drink.

I know baby is going to basically double in weight over the next 3 months and I just feel so grumpy all the time, I feel so bad for my husband because I’m just like a grouchy housemate at this point.

Just getting out to walk the dogs feels hard to enjoy because I hate the way I look and clothes I have and plodding around the park like a fat little hippo sucks, bending to pick up sticks and dog poo sucks.

Is there a dark cave I can go an sleep off the rest of this trimester please? I’ve just come back from a spa day and it’s like barely made a dent, also seeing younger non pregnant women in their bikinis just made me feel so bad about my lumpy cellulite huge pregnant bum.

Not sure how to pick myself up so that I can have a pleasant conversation with another human in the near future - any tips?

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Drop in percentile / suggested induction

I had my 36 week growth scan yesterday and baby boy has dropped quite a bit in percentile over the last 8 weeks.

For context, I get a few more scans because I’m coeliac but since it’s diagnosed and I know how to manage my diet, it should not affect baby at all.

At 28 weeks he was 89th percentile,
then 41th percentile at 34 weeks and now at 36 weeks he’s 21th percentile.

The sonographer said he’s healthy, has excellent blood flow, is in the right position and everything looks great. She says looking at the scan in isolation there’s no reason to worry because 21th percentile is still perfectly within range.

The wild thing is, no one even noticed this drop. I noticed at 34 weeks and asked my midwife and then had a review of the scan with an OB, who also nearly missed it again until I asked about it.

The OB said if my 36 week scan came back lower again, they would want to discusss induction with me next week at 37 weeks because it *could* be a sign that my placenta is not working efficiently enough anymore.

So - in isolation all scans looks great and baby boy is healthy, but the trend shows a slowed down growth.

I’m terrified of an induction because I heard so many horror stories and intuitively, it just feels off. It doesn’t feel like baby is ready and it doesn’t feel like I’m ready.
Does anyone have experience with a drop in percentile and suggested induction? It’s hard to tell where the OB is just following protocol and where this actually makes medically sense. It’s clearly not an emergency, otherwise they wouldn’t wait until next week to even review…

It just makes me mad because if I hadn’t pointed it out, nobody had even questioned it. On top of that they scribbled the wrong blood group for me in the report in my blue book
last week which makes me even more distrustful to Homerton Hospital 😳

Plus I’ve been in twice with reduced fetal movements and feel like I’m now on their radar. My midwife keeps telling me to always go in if anything feels off and a couple times in the heatwave it felt just a little different, but everything ended up being totally fine.
She made it sounds like it’s good to just get it checked but didn’t warn me that they’d now keep asking about it and take that into consideration when discussing an induction.

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Hey girls, I’m 35 weeks on Friday and had an extra scan yesterday to check placenta placement.. the placement was fine but the baby measured at 98th centile for weight, head and tummy. They always have measured big but yesterday they seemed more concerned. They’re testing me for the third time for diabetes (the first 2 were negative). I said I was worried something was wrong and she replied “we are too, that’s why we’re doing the glucose check again and having an extra scan”.. she also said try not to panic and that none of this is my fault.. it made me think that I should be panicking?! Has anyone else had this?

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Cheering myself up tips? Need to vent - it’s long, sorry.