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SEX ~ DRAMA ~ MARRIAGE & MORE

My husband is leaving me to “find a better woman”

He says he’s going to trade up and find a woman who is better than me… he thinks he’ll find someone who can cook and clean better, be ready for sex 24/7, and not have opinions and just sit there silently all day.

He called me horrible, horrible names… he said I’m an embarrassment to our family, and all I do is humiliate them by talking to tell much. He said I’m a disgusting and nasty woman with nothing to offer him, and all I do is hold him back. He said he deserves a woman who works as hard as he does, and still maintains the home and kids by herself and is ready for sex at bed time, and wakes up wanting it too. He called me a whore and a bitch. He said I’m crazy and unstable and everyone hates me. He listed people we are close to (friends and family) and told me these horrible things they allegedly think about me, and how everyone tells him to leave me because he’s too good for me.

He didn’t come home last night… he went to his brothers house, and sent his brother to come get some of his things.

I feel completely blindsided… the night before he held me and told me he loved me and didn’t know how he got so lucky to have me. He told me he would give up everything for our family, and he thanked me for giving him the only family he’s ever known. When I pointed this out to him he just laughed this cocky laugh and said “things change.” I asked if there was someone else, which made him really mad, but he insisted there wasn’t. He said it’s all me, and I just suck so much he can’t stand the idea of spending another day with me, even if it means losing his kids, because I make him miserable and ruined his whole life…

I just don’t know what happened. I cried all night and just begged him to come home and talk to me, but he won’t. He says he’s weak for how beautiful I am and knows he’ll go back on his word if he sees me face to face, but he’s allegedly always hated me as a person and was just keeping me around because all his friends were jealous he pulled such a hot/attractive woman, but now they realize it’s just because I’m a psycho. (I swear I didn’t do anything leading up to this. It was just a regular day).

I feel completely shattered. I feel so insecure and sad and like I hate myself. He pulled at every single lose thread I had, and now I’m just unraveling and tattering all over.

Also, I pull my weight. Our house was my premarital asset. Both cars are in my name. I make three times his income. I am solely responsible for house maintenance, paying the bills, and child care. I cook every single night. We have sex nearly every single night. The house gets a little messy, but I’m working 50 hours a week and I never get time to myself, and the only thing I ever ask him to do is take the trash out. The dinner thing is because one night I got home late from the kids soccer game, so I made stuffed peppers for dinner and they weren’t homemade (they were stoffers), and he flipped out that I fed him slop. I served it on rice with homemade garlic bread, I just was tired and needed to feed my family… I busy my ass every day, and never complain about it. I just silently take it and make sure my family is happy. And now I feel so broken…