My husbands kindness is ruining our lives and I’m sick of it
I loved how kind my Husband was when we met, but now it just feels like it’s gone too far and I’m sick of it. He does everything for everyone, and most of these people don’t care about him at all. He’s too self sacrificing to the point he’s just constantly screwing me and the kids over. We always come last.
We have plans, but a friend needs help moving or fixing their car or just got dumped and he’s right there to help and our plans get overrided. He gave our electric bill money to a guy who knew in high school who just had a baby and was left by his baby mama, and now we have a shut off notice on the door. He gave the battery OUT OF HIS CAR (not a spare) to some guy visiting the neighbors house, because his battery was shot and get couldn’t get home. He moved in a relative into our spare bedroom who was evicted, who refuses to get a job and is rude as fuck to me and the kids. He gave our son’s bike to the kid down the road who had his bike stolen. He takes in stray animals all the time, but it becomes my responsibility because he’s never home and always manages to get stuck somewhere helping someone. He was too nice to the single mom across the street and that got really messy… He has eaten maybe ten hot meals at the table with the family in about two years because he’s always on call as a volunteer firefighter and takes every single call. He’s missing our whole lives…but he says we have forever to do these things and these people need help today. Also, we barely survive paycheck to paycheck.
Meanwhile, something breaks in our house or we need a babysitter or literally anything, and none of these people are anywhere to be found, and if they do show up they bitch and curse at us the whole time that it’s stupid they had to get off work to work for more but for free.
I tell him all the time they are taking advantage and he just doesn’t seem care. He says we need to help others when we can, and kindness is key, and good karma will come back around eventually…. But I’m just tired of working hard to do nice things for our family and they always fail because he’s so focused on everyone else life. We don’t have forever, because tomorrow is never promised. But when I say that he tells me to not be so negative, and just trust him.
how do you split the housework with your husband?
Guys, after your toddler goes to bed, how do you split the housework? Things like cleaning the kitchen, tidying up, and getting everything ready for the next day.
I’m a SAHM, and my husband works mostly from home. He only goes into the office one day a week.
I feel like I do most of it. I do all the cooking and most of the cleaning. My husband plays games every evening, usually from around 8:00 pm until 11:00–11:30 pm.
Is this normal when you have a 20-month-old daughter? How do you and your partner divide things after bedtime? I’m curious how it works in other families.
