How do you do this alone

I’m 5w PP and have been staying at my mums for the last week and a half. I intend on staying for the next 3 weeks and go back just before baby’s check up. At home, I’ve had so much support from my family where sometimes my baby doesn’t even feel like mine 😂. I keep thinking how I will manage on my own with looking after a baby, myself and the home (esp during the day when my husband’s at work). For those who are or have done it alone - do you have any tips?

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I stayed at my MIL for 3 weeks PP and it felt weird to leave and do it ourselves for sure so I feel where you’re coming from. It definitely takes some getting used to but you’ll find a rhythm that works for you guys and soon enough it’ll get easier! I work full time from home while watching my 20 month old - some days are easy and some days are so hard but it’s a blessing to be able to be with her at home. I’ve been myself with her since she was 9 months old so it’s been a whirlwind! And honestly don’t sweat the home stuff as much - as long as your babies happy, a messy home only shows you’re living in it. You’ll find a balance!

just one day at a time. I have no village. My partner works weekdays almost all day, so it’s definitely hard, especially as a first time mom. I honestly couldn’t tell you how I’m doing it (I also have lack of sleep and extreme back pain from my emergency c-section). It will definitely take longer to recover if you don’t have support at home (it took me almost double the time to “recover”).
I’m not sure how I’m getting the strength to take care of her when I can barely take care of myself. Must be some divine power

My partner had 3 weeks off and then that was it. I was alone during the day. I'm not gunna lie, some days were hard and overwhelming but in the most part you just find your own rhythm. Forget the housework completely for now! Just concentrate on looking after yourself and your baby. That's all that really matters. If it makes you feel better just do one job a day. Something easy. Like putting some washing on. X

Like everyone has said, you will find your rhythm. Maybe see if there are days you can have her come over just to know you will have that to lean on. It will be tough at first but once you learn what’s easy and challenging for you then it’ll be easier to know what’s missing and what resources or support will help in the long run. Good luck

With my first I had ppd for about 2-3 months but after that, what helped me was to have a routine everyday. Nothing major: just wake up, cuddle get myself ready( that was just brushing teeth and washing my face most days😂), had some tea and then it would be time for the first nap so I would go back to bed when baby slept. Then I was able to have breakfast and video call with my mom multiple times during the day and have some music running in the background. When he was that little, I was able to watch lots of Netflix 😅so definitely do that while you can.
You will find what works for you. When my husband got home, that’s when I had a long shower, self care time or time to cook and have dinner. But

Get out the house every day. Even if it’s just popping them in a carrier and going for little wander. It does wonders for the mental health and helps you build confidence.

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