Wedding Gift Ideas

Hi Ladies,

My MIL and her partner are getting married soon and I need ideas on a good wedding gift for them.

No budget. They're both in their late 40s.

Please help 🙏🏻

Thank you 🤗

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Redundancy on mat leave

Just how hard is it to get rid of someone on mat leave? I work in a pretty unsteady industry and due to law changes the industry I work in is getting harder to remain profitable. Theres been chatter of redundancies but nothing confirmed apart from a company wide hiring freeze but I've gone through the redundancy process already with this company last year and was lucky enough to get a new role within the business. I went on mat leave end of May and due back end of Feb but I can't stop panicking about possible redundancy. My role is quite niche so finding a similar job after is neigh on impossible but I've been in this type of role for a number of years now so finding a different job will also prove difficult. Just how hard would it be for them to make me redundant and are the maternity protection laws as protective as they make out ?

Partner upset I have to get my IUD checked out by a male doctor, the same doctor who delivered 3 of our kids and been my doc since 18. He said it’s bullshit and I need to find a woman doctor

I’m just kinda shocked right now so my poll options aren’t that great but wtf 3 kids and now it’s wrong I see this obgyn

Do you want to be friends with moms your own age?

Ive noticed its hard for me to be friends with moms who are younger but im 41 and I have kids under 6 and I find that if you're too young I dont think I can. But I also see it in them too like sorry im not into TikTok and nails and fake eyelashes and shit.

Need friends 😩

Currently pregnant with my second child and the father chose to walk away, not seeing his first child either. Just feeling lonely in the journey and would love some friends to get to know and bond with. I’m from the US and live in Ohio. But open to long distance friends too. 💗

Post breakup. Long infuriating read!

My BD(He has past DV charges) and I just broke up less than two weeks ago. When we first got together things moved very fast I fell in love with the person he presented hisself as and was pregnant a little over a month later. Both of us were conscious over the decision, were very honest about our pasts + baggage + wanted to start a family together, get married etc… a ring was even bought. Fast forward to mid pregnancy I started to show and all of our issues start to arise during what’s suppose to be happy supportive times.. we almost break up once around 6 months after he left me at our doctors appointment to go hang out with friends and ignored all of mine and his moms calls after I came to her explaining what had just occurred and that he was nowhere to be found-hoping she’d know. Fast forward baby’s now here he’s really supportive the first two weeks whilst im obvi going through it but I started to notice every time I don’t or can’t do something he starts pulling back from me emotionally. 6 weeks pp you’re cleared for inter course—myself still adjusting to the new baby, PPD, breastfeeding, etc etc was in no mood for any sexual interaction(during my pregnancy intimacy was steadily maintained and we discussed figuring it out during my PP..) I was manipulated into sexual favors and intercourse around 3-4 weeks-mind you—no birth control yet and a brand new baby im figuring out. He goes back to work, im away from family, home and taking care of our little one alone. Whilst trying my best to take care of the house. Days where dishes don’t get done, I’m not dressing up or putting on makeup he claims I’m not respecting him. I push harder as I don’t want him to feel neglected as a partner. Weeks go by and I’m burnt out. Agreements where he comes home from work settles in and takes over with the baby “you have me until 9PM” are quickly forgotten and im basically now a single parent and Molly maid in our household/relationship. My breaking point was two days in a. Row where he comes home from work and hibernates for over 12 hours without even so much as a checkup on the baby or myself when he does briefly wake up. I understand a hard week at work but full time taking care of our baby, being expected to clean the whole house, do everyone’s laundry, be two steps ahead for our little one and still find time to get dressed up when I no longer feel confident, put on makeup to stay at home(because when I do it before we go out I’m “doing it for other people” when really I just don’t want to look dead inside to the rest of the world), and cook him a hot meal on a daily basis is just something that I then accepted as unfathomable. Yet—I push through and say nothing bc he’s who I truly wanted to give my time to and have a family with. Come night time on day two of his hibernation I snap. He’s awake and moves hisself into another room to nap and scroll on his phone(a frequent tendency I accepted) “why are you moving away from me? I just want to spend time with you”. I don’t take care of everything around the house and baby just to have a the leftover crumbs of your energy? What about mine? He brushes me off and goes to work in the AM- a short day. I send him a text apologizing for my emotions and tell him how I honestly feel. He comes home takes the baby after he’s gotten a chance to eat and I fall asleep on the couch. I’m exhausted. I wake up to hear our baby crying and his father in the bed with him eyes closed barely holding him upright. I take the baby, still wiping the sleep out of my own eyes… baby goes back to sleep I put him down and go to talk to his father… merely wanting to hear and understand what’s been going on at work that’s leaving him so tired(when he’s gotten over 25 hours of sleep in the last 60). He ignores me and joins or son asleep. I go for a walk to calm myself and come back to the door being locked on me. I was gone around an hour and left our baby with his father in the same room. Had no keys and left the door unlocked as it’s normal behavior when we’re going somewhere and coming right back. I’m knocking and yelling at the door—no answer. I come around our side patio to hop the railing and come through the side door—my BD and baby awake sitting in the couch. I absolutely lose it.. but this is not the end.. not just yet… following day is his preBDAY celebration I scheduled weeks in advanced and even got my parents to babysit. I check in with him day of he’s fine to go and we’re off.. little things as well.. I turn on the AC he turns it right back off(mind you this man keeps the car ice cold every other time we go anywhere so our baby doesn’t overheat) car ride is silent, we drop the baby and I offer to drive us. We go in his car anyway.. we arrive and he refuses to go inside claiming “I wanted to go by myself” purely bc I offered to drive and switch cars. I beg him to have the experience I booked for US mainly him for his bday and we go inside. He doesn’t talk to anyone myself included and when I do interact with him all i get is a thumbs up. He leaves towards the end of the class and when I call him to ask where he went he snaps and tellls me I don’t know English for asking him ‘the same question in a different way’. Celebration is over and I’m waiting for him to return atp.. I get in the car and begin to cry. Asking,begging him to be honest with me about how he feels as I was trying to have a good day and went out of my way to yet again do everything alone to try and be a good partner and have him enjoy his self. No explanation. Him-everything’s fine, you’re perfect. I get to my mom’s. As I close the door behind me I sink to the floor sobbing. Exhausted, emotionally drained and distraught. My parents come to lend a shoulder, my sobs grow more uncontrollable, 15 minutes go by my BD is calling and I miss them all. He knocks on the door and my parents answer-*asking* if my baby and I can *stay the night*. He says ok and walks away. Drives off. Only to drive back 2-3 hours later with all of mineand my baby’s stuff on the sidewalk outside my mom’s house! I put everything in the garage and establish our relationship over. Following day is his birthday(Monday) I return to his place to pickup my car and have not heard from him since leaving our stuff at my moms. I don’t reach out. Following day(Tuesday)his mom comes back home from a 4 month trio and I bring the baby to see her(my BD isn’t aware we’ve been talking). I leave him a note explaining he can reach out about arranging to see the baby and leave his house key by it. No response. His mom messages me later that day “___ is upset with me for letting you leave. Said I should’ve told him and he would’ve left work to see you both” I tell her of the situation and provide proof. She skates past it telling me we’ll work it out and we’ll still be married soon yada yada.. now establishing to me she is not my ally but merely wants me to take over her role as his caretaker! I refuse and message my BD the next day w/ an amicable arrangement with options on how we proceed with him seeing our baby. No response. His mom and I talk for the days that pass. The weekend comes-I’m still at my moms and am woken up to my mom going batshit crazy on someone at the door. I run to see my BD’s mom at the front of the door and my BD standing behind her. Check the time—it’s 7:30AM… check my phone. 2 missed calls from BD and 7 missed calls from his mom—all from 6:15-6:50AM. My phone was onnDND… no invite no confirmation of arrivals just showed up on our doorstep after days on no communication from my BD(again I reach out Wed to arrange a visit + time). Both of them spewing how I won’t let him see his baby and I took the baby away (bc I stayed home after he removed my things from his property and I refused to be back at his house with him present and my parents not there to back me up). My baby wakes up and we begrudgingly let them in…

Am I the asshole keeping my BD from our baby and in the wrong for no longer wanting to carry the weight of looking after more than just our infant when I can’t even take care of myself much anymore? Is there any hope I should hold onto that our family may possibly reconcile?

Sex positions

Give me your best/ fav position