Im at my breaking point, this is a long one I (25f) am married to my husband (24m) and we have had a sort of openish relationship he got involved with this girl who just turned 20. She is now living with us in our spare room paying half of the rent. We are doing this to help her because she is an orphan and apparently has no family and was abused by her foster family *i dont believe her background* but she has major attitude issues which i tried so hard to ignore as im really pregnant and have a toddler to care for ive got enough on my plate. I used to take her to work she works third shift with my husband but she has a different time she works because they work in different departments so I took her so my husband could get ready two days ago she woke up late and had an attitude it was horrible I was driving her to work and she kept rushing saying she was going to be late I ignored it 2 times and just told her I was getting there as fast as I could then she flipped out on me and started saying I should have woke her up and its my fault and a lot more was said we argued and I got mad and dropped her at the next gas station and told her I was not going to be disrespected and I am not her mom she is an adult and it is her job to get herself up and ready. She acts super entitled and trys to start drama almost daily so when I finally snapped it all came out. I went back home and told my husband what happened and he got ready really fast and said he was going to work early so he could leave early (3 hours early by the way) he basically ran out of the house and im almost 100 percent sure he ran to go pick her up off the side of the road. I asked him to not take her home when he got off and he blatantly lied to me and told me she got an Uber back to the house. When I got in our car the next morning all her work stuff was in the front seat and the passenger seat was leaned all the way back. Also she couldnt have put her work stuff in the car after work because it was locked and she doesn't have a key and there would be no point to him putting the passenger seat down like that. That is the issue she disrespected me completely and my husband ran to her. It makes me sick to think about i talked to my therapist and she recommended it take 2 days away from the house and both of them but I dont have any family I can stay with on such short notice and I dont have money to get a room right now because im out of work due to being high risk. I want to leave and tell him to choose but I need somewhere to stay first. Please comment any ways I can get any help leaving or maybe I can drop my cashapp and try to raise enough to get a room for two days?
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Hiya im sorry that you are going through this, you say your in an open relationship, do you have a boyfriend?
Also it sounds like shes treating you like the nanny and almost thinks your husband is hers?!
I think its okay to have an open relationship however I think due to her living with you shes gotten the wrong idea.
I think open relationship means you should be able to have time just you and your husband but with her there it doesn't seem possible x
Its kinda complicated im not interested in having sex with anyone but i dont care what my husband does as long as he sticks with one person, she was okay but as soon as she moved in she started sleeping around and I told him no more because it put me and our baby at risk if she has cought something. And I am already high risk so adding in the risk of her giving me something indirectly isn't something im okay with.
I do have permission to see other guys if I wanted to but I just dont have anyone id be interested in and Im not going out of my way to find someone

just dont

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