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My son is 4 about to be 5. I’m so tired of this life . I miss waking up in silence . I miss going for myself without no distractions. I thought motherhood would be exciting but I dread it . I work a shift I don’t want to . I can’t travel I can’t do much . I miss myself before I had a kid and I feel so selfish like bad karma will happen because I’m tired of being a parent. Everything involves my kid . I just feel weak and vulnerable. I hate that I had a kid with someone I wouldn’t even touch again . I hate this life . I wake up miserable everyday. My son deserves a happy mom . I hate this life god why was I so stupid

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I wish I had advice but what I can offer is the fact you are not alone in this feeling, I thought I would love being a mom and I do love my child but its ALOT

Something that has helped me is a gym with childcare. Even if you just go lay on a yoga mat for 2 hours with headphones! 😂🤍 hang in there!

Do you believe in God?

I was just having a conversation with my gf yesterday and I literally said I’m tired of being a mom. My son will be 5 in sept and I just divorced his dad this year and there’s been so many days where I have felt this way even though I truly do love my son. I miss when he was a baby and I always felt like I had every box checked with everything… You are not alone in this I promise you!

I think you need to tell a trusted person about this irl. You’d be surprised how much of this is not that uncommon! I think you’d also be surprised how common it is to get help, feel better, and move past these feelings.

I also think talking to your doctor would be a decent idea… a lot of what you’re feeling might classify as depression and therapy and/or medication might help pretty quickly! Depression is definitely a possibility. I think an even bigger possibility is lack of support. You are not alone and I’ve been there. I’d love to keep talking to you about this, but I hope you have ONE person in your life you can talk to as well and hopefully troubleshoot some ways to feel more supported. To be able to do something alone, just for you.

I didn’t hear you say you even dislike your child! What I did hear you say is that you feel your son deserves better. None of that makes you a bad mom, btw! In fact the opposite.

I’m sorry love I feel for you just take breaks when you can and connect with friends which is what you’re doing now . Nappping, FaceTiming other mommas, drinking wine , watching your favorite shows are all good coping skills. Take it day by day mama you got this! ❤️

Motherhood was never supposed to feel like that. Unfortunately we live in a country with very little support because everyone is fighting their own battles. Try to find a village. Try to go on walks with other moms around your area. 💗

in our community

would you call CPS on your neighbours who you can clear as day hear through the vents “stop hitting me daddy”?

for the record, I have called. I just want to know other people’s thoughts and opinions. I was hesitant to call, because they’ve made false statements about me abusing my kids (and I don’t). what they saw and claimed was I abuse my kids because I grabbed our 2.5y old’s arm from running across the STREET when the bus was coming & from going over where they kept open canisters of weed, a bong, cigarettes and alcohol. heaven forbid I keep my child SAFE… but no that ‘s abuse to them.

Forest school vs nursery

My toddler has only just turned one, but I’m having a look at securing places for when he’s two. So wanted to see what people thought!

He currently goes to nursery 3 days a week and I’m weighing up the idea of sending him to a forest school on one of the nursery days instead 🌳.

Has anyone had any experience doing this? Worried about the transition from nursery and him being unsettled out of his usual routine, but also think it would be a really good experience to spend lots of time outside and exploring!

Would you be upset?

I had to go out for 1 hour and left my 3 year old with my partner (his dad) and when I come back he was asleep on the sofa and my 3 year old was playing on the floor. All is ok, but I feel angry he was unsupervised!??

Anyone else angry 24/7?🤣

Gosh I am so angry and irritated all the time. Sometimes I have no reason to be but I feel like I can’t help it especially with my partner. He is so gentle, loving and patient but any little thing he does sets me off. I feel terrible! Anyone going through this?

Are there any Mums who will be teaching their little one reading BEFORE any school?

I know I always see Mums saying that they are leaving it up to the teachers for when their little starts school. However, are there any Mums teaching reading before that instead? We have been teaching our toddler words here and there in his favorite books and will do more as he gets older. We just want to give him the best start and also it is easier for us to teach him where we can offer one on one... Which I know can be difficult in school, when there is a class full of children

Teachers (or other mandated reporters) would you do anything about a minor being forced to attend church?

You know about this situation because the minor keeps privately expressing to you that they don't want to go and have tried everything to avoid it. The minor claims they are manipulated with guilt and threats of losing privileges at home when they don't want to go, if neither of those work then they are physically escorted to the car and to the church. The minor has started staying after school to vent about this situation and to avoid being at home.