TMI post sorry!
I have realised I NEVER feel horny or aroused. (No I’m not postpartum). I’ve been trying to think and can’t remember the last time I was horny. I have an active sex live with my partner but I’m never really aroused and most of the time feel no pleasure unless he makes me finish but that can be quite vigorous and not that nice, but the feeling of being horny or aroused I never have anymore.
I have had this for quite some years now for a few reasons I think contributes (past issues that made me not feel very connected etc) but I would always get super horny when I was ovulating which was purely hormonal. Now even when I’m ovulating I don’t get horny.
I’m very insecure of my body which I think plays a huge part in this, because during sex I find it hard to full relax as I’m always worried about a certain part of my body showing so I always hide and feel on edge because I’m insecure.
I will admit I have been extremely tired, stressed and overwhelmed lately. Me and my partner tend to be exhausted by the end of the day and we’ll have a quicky but it’s more mechanical for me and I don’t feel any pleasure
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What are those past issues if you don’t mind me asking? From experience, any sort of issues that make you feel disconnected from your partner are definitely a huge desire killer.