Resent my partner

Is it wrong to resent my partner since having our little girl? I’m so tired of having to think for him aswell, he just goes to work, has a shower or chills, has a lie in etc, whatever works for him. But if I ask for some help around the house, with her or to go and do anything for me it’s like a massive favour. Or at least that’s how I’m made to feel.
I’m starting to feel it would be easier doing it on my own rather than having to think for him aswell. At least if you no you’ve got to do it all you get on with it rather than waiting or hoping someone else will help you.

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I’m doing it all alone because my partner works nightshift. It’s draining.

My friend’s doula made her read how to not hate your husband after kids loool i think it’s common to be like wtf my life changed so much and you seem to be alright

The beginning of separation. U better flip now , flip the fuck out . Bc that’s exactly what I wanted to do but instead I cried to him and tried to talk things out blah blah blah . It don’t work.

Men start doing when women start leaving

I resented my partner soo much during pregnancy and for a few months after delivery. I went through mental health issues in pregnancy and it was just soo hard on me, while he just seemed to be living his best life, while I couldn’t even roll over without crying out in pain. What helped us was me telling him how he felt, like “I resent you at the moment cause I feel I’ve done all this during pregnancy and since the baby and your life gets to just go on as usual.” That really helped us, so I would try that. Men are really clueless and don’t think the way we do, so we have to spell it out for them or they just don’t realise stuff.

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Argument with husband

Would you be annoyed/upset if you were meeting some friends for a drink and you’d got yourself and your son ready and as you were putting your shoes on and getting your toddler’s bag of things together, your husband just left the house with your son and didn’t communicate he was going to start walking ahead? I phoned him and he said he was on his way to the pub. I’d got our son ready and was getting my own shoes on and his snacks and bag together and he didn’t have the decency to wait for me so we could walk to the pub together, or even communicate he was going to walk ahead.

Help, advice.

Im currently going thru a phase (i hope) with my 7 year old. Hes very mouthy and sarcastic. When speaking to me my daughter. Hes always in a demanding tone. He doesn't talk to hus father like that but he has tried. I try to talk, take certain toys or activities away but I always break and give in. I feel/know that he knows he can get over on me and he uses that to his advantage. When he decides not to listen or starts being mouthy. I will try to redirect him or say things like we don't talk like that in this house. We respect and show love in this house hold. Even then he will stomp shout. Then his father will intervene and then this Lil boy wants to get some act right but why does it take for his father to get involved for him to listen to me?? I on the other hand will get upset and cry because at that moment I feel overwhelmed out of touch. Like why can't the child ive carried and birth not respect me or listen.

To the parents who don't pop their kids. How do you get them to listen??

Pushing my buttons

My MIL likes to push boundaries. Most recent is I was feeding little one and she was getting distracted by the noise of the tv. So I shut it off. My MIL then goes “she just wants to watch” and proceeds to hold a phone up to my baby with some baby video playing. I told her we won’t be doing that. She can see TVs obvs for a quick second but we rather her be read a book or play with toys. She laughed and said “you’ll get to a point where you’ll put her down and let her watch tv so you can do stuff. That how we used to do it”

I just don’t get it. She always pushes things we don’t want and brings up what she did 25 years ago. My husband has spoken to her as well as myself. It is just baffling

2 year age gap advice

I’ve only just found out I’m pregnant so excuse me mildly crashing out out of pure fear and anxiety.
Of course I’m over the moon and so blessed that I get to do this all over again and make my son a big brother but it’s really just hit me how the hell am I going to do this. I know people do very often have more than 1 child but he’ll be just over 2 by the time this baby is born and he’ll still need me so much I’ve got so many thoughts going round my head of how I’ll cope as I know how time and life consuming newborns are and I don’t ever want him to feel left out. Please tell me these are normal thoughts and it will all work out somehow 😅

What's your picky toddlers favorite food?

I need more ideas on what to cook for my picky toddlers (with hidden veggies).

Toilet

What are we doing with our Velcro babies when we need the toilet, specifically if we know we are going to be in there a while. He hates a bouncer etc. I’ve just had to lay him on a towel on the floor and he was fine, but feels super unhygienic
For reference this is what we have to do. There was a big smile for once😂