Mom's going through divorce/separation/ breakups

Do I have a right to be angry?

I just finalized my divorce after three years. It was long and painful. I have a child with special needs and I asked to move in with my mom and stepdad for two weeks so I had time to look for a place at the beginning of my divorce. They said they were not comfortable with it. I had to take a less than ideal place and whatever was available because I needed to leave quickly with my kids so I moved into a small place which was all I could afford. My mom and stepdad said that when the divorce was final they would help me find a more suitable place and promised money to help with the cost. Today I told them I found a place and was excited and thought that I was ready to make a move into a more favorable place for my kids particularly my special needs child. My step dad said “ well we are only giving you that money if you match it”. Granted they don’t have to give me anything and I am grateful but for years they made this promise and for me to find a place, them take back the deal is disheartening. I am really angry. Any thoughts? Am I overreacting? I don’t have the money to “ match it “ and I just feel like I have taken 5 steps back. I have tried so hard, working 2 jobs but as a single mom it’s really hard.

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Sahm rant

I’m sick and tired being told “you choose to be a stay at home mom”. Just because I’m a stay at home mom doesn’t make have to take care of our baby 24/7 with no breaks. I shouldn’t have to beg you to change a diaper, I shouldn’t have to ask you to feed our baby. I shouldn’t ask you to spend time with our baby while I leave the house to get groceries or even just have time for myself to breathe. You wonder why she doesn’t take bottles or the spoon good from you or why she’s looking at mama all the time. YOU choose to come home after work and go straight to sleep or go on the game. Do I not get freedom either? Or leave the house without you saying “take the baby with you”. Don’t forget when I argue with you about all this you like to say “I’m sorry I’m a shitty father”. Out of the weekend you actually spend a few hours with your kid but that’s because I’m there with you. Sometimes I think did I make a mistake having a kid? I love you and our daughter but we aren’t the same anymore.

Resent my partner

Is it wrong to resent my partner since having our little girl? I’m so tired of having to think for him aswell, he just goes to work, has a shower or chills, has a lie in etc, whatever works for him. But if I ask for some help around the house, with her or to go and do anything for me it’s like a massive favour. Or at least that’s how I’m made to feel.
I’m starting to feel it would be easier doing it on my own rather than having to think for him aswell. At least if you no you’ve got to do it all you get on with it rather than waiting or hoping someone else will help you.

50/50 in parenting

I am a first time mother of a 5 month old and I’m struggling to make my husband understand that he isn’t doing enough. He does a lot so thinks that’s fine but when I ask him to do one thing off his ‘dad’ schedule, it’s always done with reluctance. I’m sick of repeating myself of how unfair it is so I have told him I will not say it again as I’m done feeling bad about it. Now how can I actually fix this.

Toilet

What are we doing with our Velcro babies when we need the toilet, specifically if we know we are going to be in there a while. He hates a bouncer etc. I’ve just had to lay him on a towel on the floor and he was fine, but feels super unhygienic
For reference this is what we have to do. There was a big smile for once😂

Peppa pig world for a 5 month old

I need an opinion, please. I want to know whether I'm being selfish.
My daughter is 5 months and 3 weeks old. My partner has two other children with his ex a 7 year girl and a 3 year oldboy. He wants to take the children to Peppa Pig World next week, but it will be the last week of my maternity leave. On top of that, I think my daughter is still far too young. She's formula-fed, enjoys having her naps during the day, struggles to sleep in her pram, and much prefers a calm environment. I feel really guilty about taking her somewhere she won't even enjoy, and I honestly think she'll end up struggling for two whole days afterwards. We're also taking the children abroad in September for 7 days to an all inclusive hotel with lots of activities specifically for children. I'm worried about that as well because I'll be introducing purées to my daughter and I don't know how I'm going to manage her food while we're there. Even so, I agreed because I also want to see the kids happy. Do you think it would be selfish of me to say no to him about going to Peppa Pig World? I told him he could take the children on his own and that I'd be completely happy with that, but he wouldn't accept it.

Egg allergy at 6 months old! Support needed!

Our baby boy tried eggs for the first time and it went totally wrong. It caused hives, and a trip to A&E. He is okay after medication but we could do with some support with any recipes to feed our son as he cannot have egg for a whole year now when he will be 18 months old. Also, any recommendations for allergy free cookbooks would be greatly appreciated.