Sahm rant

I’m sick and tired being told “you choose to be a stay at home mom”. Just because I’m a stay at home mom doesn’t make have to take care of our baby 24/7 with no breaks. I shouldn’t have to beg you to change a diaper, I shouldn’t have to ask you to feed our baby. I shouldn’t ask you to spend time with our baby while I leave the house to get groceries or even just have time for myself to breathe. You wonder why she doesn’t take bottles or the spoon good from you or why she’s looking at mama all the time. YOU choose to come home after work and go straight to sleep or go on the game. Do I not get freedom either? Or leave the house without you saying “take the baby with you”. Don’t forget when I argue with you about all this you like to say “I’m sorry I’m a shitty father”. Out of the weekend you actually spend a few hours with your kid but that’s because I’m there with you. Sometimes I think did I make a mistake having a kid? I love you and our daughter but we aren’t the same anymore.

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I’m sorry you’re going through this mama. I was going through the same so I left him. And even if I’m still doing it all alone, I feel like I could breathe a little more since he’s gone because nothing hurts more than having another capable adult home who doesn’t help.

Hi Katie! I have been in your shoes. I know what you are feeling. I have thought about leaving. My husband never understood the pain of being a sahm. but I also never understood being the sole provider. Me and him had many talks. It finally took almost two years to figure out exactly how to be better parents and to be a new version of partners for each other.

I don’t really know what to say other than know you aren’t alone, and are cared for. ❤️

I'm with you momma. I'm not even a sahm and I get the same reactions from my husband. I love him so much, but it hurts so bad. If you need a support person, feel free to message me ❤️

You’re strong and capable and not crazy to feel how you do.

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