Resenting husband

My LO is 10 weeks old and I’ve really started to resent my husband and how he can just switch off and isn’t our baby’s 24/7 carer. It’s really affecting our relationship and I wondered if any other mums feel the same?

For context, I’ve really struggled adjusting to this new phase of life and had loads of hobbies before baby came along. I love her to pieces and wouldn’t trade this for the world, but I feel like my life is on hold and my husband can just get on with his. An example is that he’s organising (voluntarily) this local community event and it’s taking a lot of his time. As a breastfeeding mum I’d never be able to have the time to do any of that, let alone be away from my baby for long periods of time. He’s been able to continue doing what he enjoys.

We also only just established breastfeeding as we had some issues for the first 6 weeks and needed to bottle feed.

Don’t get me wrong he’s a great dad and is keen to give me lots of time to myself, and he also does most of the night shifts so I can get extra sleep. I just feel that I do most of the mental load and caring for our daughter, but that’s just how it is!

in our community

Paultons park

How is it for a 15 month old? Are there lots of rides for her to go on? We’re thinking of taking her there tomorrow ☺️

Toddler nonstop complaining

Sat here crying because ive had to resort to putting on Teletubbies AGAIN just so we can have some relief. My (non verbal) little boy will be 2 this month. He seems to be in a phase where he is just angry all day and high pitched whinging and screaming especially when his daddy stops playing with him because he needs to like...have a pee...have a shower...etc! He only wants his daddy half the time I guess because im more like...go play i need to wash up...
Today daddy went for a shower and I offered little man a yogurt that he wanted but no. He only wanted daddy to give it to him and started having a meltdown that he was in the shower. We all need a break...im trying to recover from a bit of a breakdown after being made redundant. I desperately need some quiet at home and some serenity....i just start crying instantly when I am bombarded with crying now. And I know I need to toughen up somehow
If anyone has any suggestions I would love to know. We've started trying to be tougher with him and tell him to stop whinging and angry squeaking but so far it doesn't work.

Life has been so hard.

My husband and I haven’t been getting along well. He slammed the door and probably woke up our 3 year old. I feel like we’re heading towards toxicity or divorce at this point. Idk. Im sure tomorrow will be better but its just so hard in the moment. My 3 year old likes to push my buttons all day and I have an 11mo that barely sleeps. She is still nursing every 2hours at night. I feel like im drained, stressed and worn out. I love my family but im constantly overwhelmed. I also hate my body postpartum. I bounced back the first time but this time not so much. Im the most ive ever weighed. I hate shopping all the sudden bc i just look like a blob. Sorry for ranting. I don’t know what to do anymore. Its just the same every day and i try to push through but life is tearing me down.

Vent Sesh

Is it just me or am I the a**hole because I left a man who wasn’t doing anything for me, our daughter or his other 2 children (from different relationships)? Like he was in and out of jail for the last 2 years, no job, and all he did was stay at his dad’s house and do yard work. I went to school, worked full time and took care of OUR child!! He didn’t call to check on her or see how she had been. He was only ever worried about when we would have sex again. Yet, I am in the wrong because I broke his heart because I was exhausted and fell out of love with him and his needy co-dependent self 🙄

What best thing to give baby for breakfasts?

I know they say baby rice is no good, so what else are we giving? I heard ready break is okay but does that have high sugar content?

I just need to get this out

So previously about 2 months ago my child’s father was cheating on me for about I think 3 months and now I just don’t know how to feel anymore it’s like I don’t know how I feel I’ve been going to therapy just started actually but I don’t know if I want to stay because my dad told me it is up to me but another man probably is going to do the same thing and I don’t want to leave and start completely over and end up going through the same thing then when I’m around my child father I completely forget about what just happened 2 months ago but nothing has changed we still constantly argue we have good days sometimes but he doesn’t show any emotions but when I do decide to leave he just showers me with love