Can he be the one even if I'm unsatisfied sexually?

We dated in college and that was 10 years ago. The sex was great then. We like the same things, he's so respectful, comes from a good family and I've known him all my life because he's my best friend's twin brother. We decided to give it a go again and we have the same chemistry we did before but now I'm so unsatisfied sexually. TMI but last night he initiated sex and this is the first time in maybe 3 years (we had a brief fling then) and he came before we could even have sex..... I said it's ok and we just went to bed. Earlier today he initiated again and we were having sex for maybe 2 minutes, I'm not exaggerating before he said hold on and he had to pull out so he wouldn't finish. And he's trying to keep the mood going because we just started so he's kissing me and stuff but it kind of just frustrated me more. We continue the same way and he stops again. We start again and then we go for maybe a little longer and I finish but not in a very fulfilling way if that makes sense. I tell him not to cum inside of me and he says ok. We continue and I'm finally like yes ok we're getting somewhere. Then he says we have to take a break and pulls out really quickly. I ask if he came and he says he doesn't think so. And then I say I think you came inside of me and he's like I might have came a little bit but I'm pretty sure I came out WTF?!
I don't know if I can have sex this way again. It's frustrating and if this is the sex we are going to have then I don't know if it will get better. I don't know if it was nerves. He's a healthy guy and stuff too man I'm so unsure

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I will say it’s very individual to you but really decide is that high on my list of priorities and can you satisfy yourself in other ways lol 😂

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Give it a little more time to see if this continues, because maybe the novelty of being with you again after so long is getting him so excited that he’s unable to hold out. If it continues to happen after the next few times though you might have a problem.

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