My husband has hit me again !!

I understand we started rough , I can’t even believe I’m typing this because I would see stories like this and think this can’t be me . He hit me the first time 2 years ago , sometimes during an argument he would almost hit me but it somehow we stopped by his manipulative mother who lives with us . He’s the only son and she has no husband so of course she has to live here . Now because of her he has hit me ! I told myself I would cope because of the kids , two boys , how will I cope ?? They need a man .. that’s what I kept telling myself . I’ve left before and somehow found myself back again with him and his mother because they begged me to come back . Now I have a busted lip ! A busted lip ! Bleeding .. can’t believe this . On my first day of my work ! Just because they are gonna make me a GM?? Is that it ?? Because since yesterday he’s been talking about it .. I don’t know . .. I’m so sad that this is my life . I just want to leave this earth and rest with my mum cause I’m so ashamed of myself and how I could end up with a man like this .but I can’t leave my kids .. I don’t know …

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Your kids do not need a man. Let alone a man that’s abusive. Leave. If he can hit you imagine what he could do to defenseless children. If you can’t leave for yourself leave for your kids.

First of all it’s not your fault. You have nothing to be ashamed of. There is absolutely no excuse for him to treat you like that. Second of all you need to leave for good don’t let him keep doing this to you. If you stay you’re teaching your boys that it’s okay to treat their partners how your husband has treated you. Your boys will be better off with you safe and happy.

He’s done it before he will do it again.

Firstly, you have nothing to be ashamed of, you've done nothing wrong. Secondly, this is a phase of your life, not your entire life and I know it looks bleak right now, but this isn't it, this doesn't have to be your full story. You've started a new job, that's a great starting place - financial independence. There a shelters and so much support , if you're ready to leave.

Girl Leave that man before he hurts you bad your kids deserve better 💯💯

Leave with your kids and don't go back.

It's not your fault ❤️ he has issues. Don't blame yourself. Unfortunately we live in a world with bad people or people who make bad decisions. You sound smart and like you have a good head on your shoulders. You can choose who you surround yourself with although it will be so hard.

Leave and don't look back!!! Or your sons will follow suit and not know how to treat a woman.

He can still be in their lives. But staying is not a good enough excuse! He has hit you 1 too many times

I am so so sorry your going through this. In my opinion it's time to leave. I believe as we raise our kids they look to their parents and adult relationships they are surrounded with to see what love looks like. Abuse is not love. You and your kids will be better off without the abuse. It won't be easy but you can do it. And so can your kids. Document everything, press charges, or don't press charges. But make sure to document things for the following divorce. I'm here if you need someone to talk to. My abuser wasn't a husband so I didn't go through divorce but I'm here if you need someone to talk to and vent and ask for strength from. Going back is so easy sometimes and we all need to stand together to help when those times come.

Your boys will understand when they are older ! Today he hit you in your lip , you never know what he will do next !

I understand that you had left and gone back , it’s okay don’t be ashamed. Majority of victims go back multiple times until they themselves feel drained and tired.

I can vouch and tell you from growing up and seeing my mom be “strong “ , it had a toll on her and a toll on me . I hate it seeing what my dad would do to my mom .

Get help ! Talk to someone. Let them know what goes on in your home .
It’s better to let go than to deal with pain and mental abuse.

A fresh start for you and your boys will be okay ! Have faith but believe in it for yourself and your boys ☹️🙏🏼

They do need a man but your husband isn't one. I'm so sorry. Please find somewhere safe for you all to go. If you're becoming a GM I hope that Means money won't be an issue. Praying for you 🫶🙏

Ok well first of all, your kids don’t need him. He’s acting like a boy, not a man. He shouldn’t have even thought about putting his hands on you. Protect your kids and leave him, he’s done it once and he sure as hell will do it again.

You’re kids need to be around someone who’s a good role model, if they grow up watching that happen to you, there’s a chance they will grow up thinking that’s what a man does.

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I live with my parents and my mom always takes my baby and is always holding doing everything with him when I want to hold him she acts like he's her kid

Are all 3 year olds like this?

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Anyone else’s (male) partner think packing the car is the number one job when getting ready to leave for a trip?

Whenever we’re going anywhere, the first thing he wants to do is load the car. He’s constantly on me “is this ready to go in the car? Is that ready to go in the car?”

He’ll literally take bags that are half packed and start loading them. One time he put an empty cooler in the trunk and said I could just carry the food out to it.

We’re going to a water park hotel for 2 days and 1 night today, and that’s the first thing he said to me 🙃

I have said it to him many times that I like to take an account of things before we start loading it up, and there are many tasks that can be done before it’s time to load the car (the kids are still in their pyjamas…)