My son who is 3 has never been to a setting….. is anyone else the same?

My son who turned 3 in June has never been to a setting, I work 3 days per week and he stays with my parents.
I’ve enrolled him into forest school in September, 5 mornings 9-12.
I’m so nervous - what if the staff are really strict with him and shout at him, what if other children are mean to him.
we won’t be there to look after him 😭
I’ve not let him know I’m worried about all this of course, but he keeps saying I don’t want to go nursery on my own and it’s breaking my heart! But I don’t want it to come to next year (reception) and him really struggle if he’s never been anywhere?

in our community

Need help, husband is financially abusive and I want to travel for my Grandmothers funeral but he is very controlling with his money.

So my Grandmother just passed away and i would like to travel for the funeral. I am a stay at home mom with 3 kids and haven’t been in the work field in years. Especially after we moved it didn’t make sense to find a job since my kids are young.

My husband is the one that works and handles EVERYTHING!!! I do not get any weekly or monthly allowance 😔We don’t share bank accounts or anything. Once in a while he will give me a $100 here and there. So most of my spending goes to my Visa card but then he gets upset and wonders what I buy because he is the one that will have to pay it off. Then he makes the comment let’s see how long it will take until you come to me to pay it off.
Most of the things I buy are for the kids. We go on outings because it’s the summer and I try to find affordable things to do with them but then they need food or I go to the grocery and pick up some things that I need for the house or for dinner that day.

He does the grocery shopping but it’s always the same random things. It’s not like groceries based on meals that are planned out for dinner.

So anyways my grandmother passed away and I told him I would like to travel and go to her funeral since I missed my grandfathers funeral. It took a a lot of back and forth about how financially now is not the time and how we should go another time. My family had a group meeting and want me to be there since I haven’t seen them in YEARS. They also want me to do the Eulogy so I have to travel to get there.

In the end he end up booking the flight and hotel for me but he said I have to bring our toddler with me because he doesn’t want to watch him or deal with him. So I will be alone on a very long 2 days of traveling (flying and layover) but there for a week with my toddler.

I also will need spending money for food but I am scared to ask him because he already made a big deal about this trip. I am honestly happy for the break away from him but how am I going to manage without extra cash. I need to pay for taxis, I have to contribute to the funeral as well. My toddler eats a lot and I have to buy food since the hotel charges for all the meals.

I should add we have been married for 14 years and I am unhappy with the situation 😞

Is there a quick job I can do (toddler has to come too) because he is always with me. I need to make some extra cash to bring with me.

I really appreciate all of you who read this and offered any suggestions ❤️

Am I a terrible wife?

Hey all…I am 4 months postpartum and struggle with PPD/PPA. My husband knows nothing about mental health no matter how many times I explain what I’m going through. This evening he asked if I could “schedule him in for a makeout session.” I told him sure…whenever he takes care of the laundry for the kids, cooks, cleans, takes our son to his frequent appts, runs the household, remembers our sons meds, etc and he just looked at me. He helps some don’t get me wrong. But he leaves the mental load to me, waits for me to tell him what to do and then says I didn’t remind him if he forgets to do something. Am I a terrible wife? Y’all I am exhausted to my core 🫩 we both also work full-time.

Husband issues

I’m 15 weeks pp and have retained 10kgs post delivery. I’m exclusively breastfeeding so don’t have the time to work out or go on diet. Other day I tried to fit in my pre pregnancy jeans for a small outing. Hub comments “ look at your tummy, it’s clearly visible and you look like an aunt “

I have been slim my entire life, and already dealing with body issues. His comment made me sad. I shared how i feel, he said he was joking and i take everything seriously. 😟 he is also texting and trying to be friends with my best friend. I’m so upset right now.

Advice on foods to give my 11 month old

Tried a few different foods such as toast, pancakes, scrambled eggs and cereal. He only likes scrambled eggs and pancakes.
Any recommendations or ideas, feel free to message me anytime!
Thank you 😊

Meal ideas?

Hi everyone what’re yous feeding your little ones for breakfast lunch and tea? And what times are you feeding this at roughly?

Marriage after having a child

A rant.
So I've always heard of couples fighting more after having kids, and how having kids change you and I thought, well my husband and I have already gone through so much how different can it be? We always managed to resolve our conflicts. But since having my first daughter my perspective on our whole relationship has changed.

He's not a bad person, he can be very caring and Id say hes a good father, especially comparing to some of the horror stories I read. He loves our daughter very much.

But our relationship has suffered greatly. For more context too, our daughter was conceived through ivf because my husband struggles with low T and low sperm count. So our sex life is practically non existent. In the past 2 years we only did it once to induce labor and it was so clinical.

Theres also no intimacy. No kissing other than a quick peck. No time to cuddle or hold hands. Our conversation is mostly about our daughter, our families or his work. I honestly havent really been in the mood either, at least not to be intimate with him. He acts more like a roomate than a husband. He doesnt look at me like hes attracted to me. He doesnt do anything in a flirty way, literally nothing about our marriage lately has any chemistry.

But I dont see myself with anyone else or even outside of this marriage. I just wish things were different. When we argue he becomes a jerk. Gaslighting. Stonewalling. Rude. I can cry and he will walk away and sleep easy. It sucks because on our good days we used to have deep conversations and I used to feel great around him. Now im mostly always annoyed with his shortcomings. Not to mention he is 43 and still needs to be reminded to take out the trash or break down boxes or given lists etc. Ya Im an overfunctioning wife and Im tired to being the manager.

Honestly after having a kid so much that I used to tolerate I just cant stand anymore. Hes 8 years older than me but sometimes I feel like Im the older one. And with the complete lack of intimacy I just mostly feel annoyed. Honestly idk what to do anymore. I quit my job to raise our daughter and have 0 money. I have no family to help me. I don't want to lose my current house and I honestly wish my relationship would just get better but we tried therapy, i tried expressing how i feel and he says he understands but then nothing changes. Im just burnt out.