UK Mums... Has your midwife ever gave you back the pre pot (iykyk) and told you to empty it at home and reuse it for next time? 🤣

I had my 34 week appointment today and as usual they gave me a pot to wee in. After my midwife tested my urine, she gave it back to me with the pee lol and told me to rinse it out at home and use it for the next appointment 😂 I was a little taken back and joked with my husband that the NHS must be really hurting. I know it's my pee, I just had a good laugh because here I was carting my pee pot around in my purse at Morrison's

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What is a healthy sex life for parents?

Me and my husband have a 6 month old and a 2 year old, our days are pretty chaotic and stressful. We can get so snappy with eachother and totally loose patience, and I feel like we heavily rely on sex to bring us back together again. We have sex almost every day, and on the days we don’t I can really feel the difference in our dynamic. Other factors definitely contribute to our moods such as tiredness and work, but I worry we are potentially “using” each other subconsciously as a stress relief, although I don’t feel like he’s using me, and I don’t believe he thinks i’m using him either. We keep it fun and exciting and something to look forward to that’s just for us

Is this healthy? Is this just the season of life we’re in?

Would you initiate sex even if you don’t feel like it… ever

So here’s the thing. Like mayyybe I “get horny” once a month. My guess is longer but that’s the longest I’ve gone and then might’ve felt like wanting to truly initiate. Ofc my husband and I don’t go very long without him getting horny lol. Once things get started, esp toys for my clit, then I’m into it and orgasm etc and it’s great. But I don’t feel turned on before the fact. And there’s times when it’s a quickie and I don’t feel aroused at all. I get that my body works different and needs a lot of warming up (except he just skips that and teases me with my vibrator lol) but idk. This being said, should I try to initiate more even if I’m not feeling it? He’s always wishing I would but I feel fake and I feel like he can tell.

Public sex

I have a fantasy of having sex in public or at least giving/receiving oral my fiancee doesn’t know this but I also think we both would be too shy/scared of getting caught to try it out

Has anyone had sex in public and where?

My partner has left me.

I am heartbroken. My partner or 8 years has left me and I am currently on maternity leave with no income; with a 7 month old and a 2 year old.

My house is mortgaged, and I can’t afford the bills even when I do return to work. My heart is breaking for my kids.

Has anyone been through this? Do you have any advice?

bd is driving me crazy!

so for the last week he’s been so nice and we’ve been messaging and sorting things out between us ( not getting back together but more about the visits and problems during them)
I’ve now found out the reason he’s been so nice and not arguing is because he’s decided to start the court process. when i’ve asked him what he wants to change he said “he wants to go out more with baby”? i said yeah you could’ve asked me and we could’ve made the plans?
instead he starts a court process…

in these messages he’s claiming i’ve met someone else and cancel on him meet this person with the baby.
I’m not seeing anybody or even talking to anybody as i always have baby so i don’t have time. even if i was it’s none of his business and i’ve NEVER cancelled to meet somebody else and definitely wouldn’t bring my baby.
im so confused where he’s gotten this from.

How do people survive without credit?

Recently I have entered IVA.I pay £100 every month.i am so stressed all the time,I am dont to my last penny,I dont have an ovedfraft....no credit cards..its stressing me out so much....