20 week scan gender reveal

Hi everyone. I am pregnant and about 13 weeks. I won’t be making a big announcement to family it’s just known between me and my partner. It’s our last pregnancy and I’m undecided if I want to know the gender. Can NHS write on a piece of paper what the gender is or are there legalities around that? What other ways can I have the gender noted IF I wanted to do a private gender reveal for me and my kids? I’m not really looking to pay extra for the private scans.

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Some will do it, some won't, it's been asked on here before! So it's really luck of the draw. Basically the 20 week scan isn't really about the gender it's about much more important checks. So it will really depend on your ultrasound tech on the day. With the private ones they'll do an envelope, confetti cannon etc. So if you really want it a secret until a reveal I'd go private

I asked the sonographer to write it down for us at the 20 week nhs scan. They just popped it in an envelope 😊. We didn't look in the end!

we went private to find out early and obviously they were happy to put it in an envelope but at my 20 week scan they made sure if we wanted to find out there and then, I'm sure not everyone would be so kind as to do so but I think many people in this line of work are inclined to help you make it special

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