im struggling

I’m nine months postpartum, and my partner and I have been working through a difficult season. Intimacy is still hard for me because I often feel like I’m the one initiating, and when we do connect it can feel rushed, leaving me feeling unwanted. I take spicy pictures and don’t send because he definitely feels pressure but I just miss our old spark. He used to be all over me.

It brings up old insecurities from early in our relationship, and I find myself needing reassurance that I’m desired and enough. He came in the room already hard and I’m in my head thinking he was looking at other girls. And after we had sex, he jokingly said “I didn’t want you to be mad at me that we didn’t have sex”. I cried to him about it and he said it isn’t like that at all, and he is attracted to me. I know my anxiety around it can create pressure, and i’m extra emotional, but I’m trying to figure out how to feel secure and let him pursue me too.

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Sex life after children 🫣

I have a 17 month old and I’m also 19 weeks pregnant after my daughter was born we kind of got our sex life back on track and I was actually starting to enjoy sex and since I’ve been pregnant, it’s been a bit harder not just with me being uncomfortable but with our toddler crying when me and him both go into the same room and she isn’t in that room we’ve tried distracting her with toys food and nothing seems to work we haven’t had sex in about five months to be honest since I found out I was pregnant 😃 and I fear this is gonna take a toll on our relationship because in my first pregnancy, we didn’t have sex for 13 months because it was too painful for me and we argued a lot during this time not because I couldn’t have sex but because we just drifted from each other but I’m also wondering how many times do people like she have sex after children ?
Any advice

Feeling sad - baby friends

I said how I was going to take my little one to a little park nearby at a certain time, as before there had been a nice range of ages playing there. My partner commented that he was sad our 1 year old didn't have any friends to play with. Now our 1 year old has 3 main different friends but can't see them all the time due to the other mum's going back to work and fitting it in. I know I'm not the best socially myself, but I've been really trying. I just don't know what to do. Even when I've spoken to or met people on here, they just stop talking/disappear. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I'm taking them to different baby classes but I feel like everyone knows each other and stays on their pairs or groups, and I feel like an outsider looking in, wishing that was me. Don't really know what I'm expecting from this, just feeling upset as I'm trying my best and just getting nowhere.

Searching for My Mom Tribe

I never thought I’d say this, but I feel like I’m back in elementary school—struggling to make friends.

Since becoming a mom, I’ve slowly lost touch with many of the friends I used to have. Life got busy, priorities changed, and somewhere along the way I realized I don’t really have anyone to talk to or share the ups and downs of motherhood with. Some days it feels pretty lonely.

Are there any mom groups out there, or any moms looking to make genuine friendships? I’d love to connect with people who understand this stage of life. ❤️

Urgently need sex advice! How do I get my husband off?

Okay so my husband rarely gets off during sex. It usually takes about an hour and half of sex before he finally does. I’ve asked him about it and he says I’m the best he’s ever had, and he loves me and our sex, but sometimes I just want him to be done faster. By time he’s done once, I’ve gotten off like 4-5 times. Tonight we have a date night planned and I know we’re going to be having sec after, and I really really just want to impress him. I’m looking for advice on anything sexy or fun/unique that will make things move along a little faster.

I need a friend that will actually open up

Please stop this nonsense just do it because you want to lol if not leave me alone. Thanks 🙏🏾

Am I in the wrong

Since having my girl I’ve struggled with not having much of a sex drive and struggling to get intimate I never get a break from baby I pretty much do everything on my own even tho I have a partner, I caught my partner w***ing in the shower and he’s turning it around on me as if it’s all my fault I’ve explained I don’t like him doing it as the thought of him getting off to other girls etc it make me feel like I’m not good enough now he’s mad at me .

Please tell me I’m not in the wrong before I go insane