Breastfeeding for Dummies (Me)

Hello, I'm a FTM and non of my friends have breastfed, I've always said I didn't want to but my partner insists on it as his first with an ex was breastfed, I said I'd give it a try.

I'm due next month and I have no idea where to start tbf, I've seen all different types of pumps and when I've watched videos women let the baby feed off one breast and pump from the other. The pumped milk they put the milk into a flask when I've spoken to my partner he said that doesn't need to happen as I'll just switch between both.

Any advice is so appreciated, TIA.

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You don’t have to pump unless you plan on collecting your milk for later use! If you do choose to pump, get yourself a hospital grade pump or a hand pump. I’d suggest getting one through your insurance if you’re in the U.S. and you can also get extra pump parts or milk storage bags through there as well.

Now if you’re only breastfeeding without pumping, you’ll most likely benefit from contacting a lactation consultant so that they can give you a deeper rundown of everything that is breastfeeding. I’ve been breastfeeding for 11 months now and only pumped in the first 3 months or so because I was actively looking for jobs and had to leave my child with a caretaker. I did the method you talked about, the milk jug method, for storage and it was a lifesaver. If you have any specific questions regarding breastfeeding though feel free to dm!

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You don't need to pump, and in fact it's not recommended to do so for at least 6 weeks. I would find a BFing support group near you so you can visit whilst pregnant and get some good tips! The most important thing is to research normal newborn feeding behaviours, many people think they don't have enough milk but the truth is that we're just not used to how often babies want to feed!

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Hey mama so much advice everyone can give you. If you’re based in the UK what I would say is drop your midwife a message and ask to be placed onto your local breastfeeding class they are led by lactation consultants and will guide you through everything you need to know x

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I loved my mom cozy s9 wearables. Breastfeeding is very personal, and don’t let your partner pressure you into anything. Fed is best.
I had to stop 8 weeks in because it was taking a huge toll on my mental health. I wasn’t producing enough milk for my girl either.
Do what you want to do, do what YOU think is best. It is your body, and you just spent 9 months growing a human, be sure to give yourself lots of grace

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Only do it if you want to, don’t let anyone force you but at the same time I’m a big believer in IF women are able to, they should at least try as it’s so beneficial for both mum and baby. If physical or mental health is an issue then obviously that’s a good enough reason to not do it or to stop etc.

I’m 8 weeks in and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. It’s not easy but for me, 1000% worth it.

Definitely recommend online breastfeeding masterclasses if you’re feeling lost as everyone does things differently. If you’re in England there is breastfeeding support groups too. Also the NHS website is great for how to store and collect colostrum and breastmilk safely. Good luck! X

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